A heroic act
Bollywood director Anil Sharma talks about the challenges and memorable moments on the sets of Veer
Jasmine Singh

We had heard this rumour Salman Khan writing a five-hour-long script of Veer which was squeezed to two and a half hour later on. So, when Anil Sharma, the director of Veer, with his production manager Mohan Singh, descended to the city on a personal visit, we could not help but grab the opportunity to confirm it. We rushed to the airport and there he was — polite, forthright, the director of Gadar, Apney, Ab Tumharey Hawaley Watan Saathiyo, and now Veer in person. No qualms to share his experience about the movie, which was one hell of a challenge, by his own admission.

“Indeed it was. Creating something that takes us 100 years back is a challenge. At the same time, it is also a very creative process,” says Anil Sharma. “Veer is a period film, slated for a January 22 release. It is a story of extreme courage and bravery, fierce pride and touching love.”

Only Salman Khan could have played Veer, for his life (as we keep reading) is nothing short of an epic! So, how was it working with Salman, knowing what a hard-task guy he is? “Wonderful,” comes the reply. “Salman is a passionate guy who believes in work, work and only work. It was great working with him. As a director, it is my job to make my actors deliver, which is in sync with the script. Sometimes, even they aren’t sure whether they can act in a certain way or not. It is my job to get the best out of them.” Well, this does not mean it was an easy ride for the director. “Veer had its share of challenges,” says Anil. “We had to sit for an extensive research for the movie,” he adds. All the same, Veer had some memorable moments as well. Anil shares, “We had to shoot in front of the Buckingham Palace. After a lot persuasions, we finally got the permission to shoot from 5.30 am to 6.30 am. I just couldn’t believe that I had the permission letter in my hand. When I reached the Palace at 5.30 am, and saw the set, the old cars, carts, the cast wearing those period dresses, I just couldn’t help admiring and wondering. It was an out of the world feeling. It was a similar kind of feeling, which I felt when I created the train scene in Gadar.”

Now, Gadar reminds us of Anil’s close association with the Deol family. “ I am working on another project called Masters starring all the three Deols, Dharamendra, Sunny and Bobby. It is about three conmen,” shares Anil, requesting not to dig into Masters much.

But before he says goodbye, we make another query for the rumoured-to-be the most expensive director. Any desire to work with a particular actor? “The new actors I see on screen these days are pretty good. I would like to work with all of them,” he laughs adding, “As far as being an expensive director goes, I can’t say anything about it. Filmmaking for me is a responsibility, and I want the audience to get a complete paisa wasool.” Anil departs, leaving us with the sound of cannon roars; swords clash in fierce battle and one warrior standing tall in middle of the bloodshed—Veer.

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A school of thought
Talking gibberish to bathing in school to attending mock conferences, learning has surely evolved over the years
Ashima Sehajpal

What wrong did our GenX do to deserve this? And, what charities did GenY do to be so blessed? We envy and seek an explanation — why were we forced to score above 80 per cent in class X? Why nobody thought of introducing the grade system then? Partiality doesn’t end here, there is much more poor Gen X missed out. Schools have been pro GenY too. The innovative teaching and recreation facilities were just limited to blackboards and once a week game period. Now, let’s highlight the novel strategies schools have adopted to make learning a fun-filled activity.

Students luck just can’t get better than this. Strawberry Fields-26 has a full-fledged period, gibberish, meant just for talking just about anything (the once in a lifetime opportunity for us is now a daily activity for them).

The well-intentioned thought behind is, “It help kids vent out the frustration and negative energy. Besides talking, students are free to shout, take out voices and create as much noise as they want to,” informs Moon Sandhu, a teacher at Strawberry Fields. This activity also helps students express their emotions. “We realised the benefit of gibberish, when once a nursery student spoke about his maid beating and scolding him, when his parents are away. The same was conveyed to his parents, who then took an appropriate step.” Gibberish also helps teachers and parents assess the personality development of a child.

Students haven’t taken a bath or brushed their teeth, hair uncombed or shoes not polished, not a problem (as against our time, when we were ordered to take rounds of the never ending play grounds). The Sikhya School-46 has their first period, bath, in which the students make use of 74 washrooms of the school. Sonia Channi, principal of the school, talks about this special period, “As majority of the students of our school come from the underprivileged section and aren’t aware about the importance of hygiene, we thought of introducing a bath period in the curriculum.” The theory consists of advantages of maintaining hygiene, taking a bath and even brushing teeth. The results started showing within a few months, “Now students come bathed to the school. Since tooth paste is competitively costly, most of them brush their teeth during that period.”

Besides the usual syllabus, students of Carmel Convent School-9 have to mug up the recent financial, political and social set up of various countries. However, this doesn’t add to the academic burden. Model United Nations, the exercise is rather taken up as a recreational activity. “Every student in a certain class is deputed one country. A day is then fixed when students of the class sit as delegates of that country to discuss problems of their nation and suggest tentative solutions,” informs Punita Singh, school counselor and co-coordinator of the programme.

Thus, a student delegate from the US suggests solutions to high carbon emissions in her country, delegate from Zambia talks about how poverty can be eradicated and delegate of India talks about the future projects that will boost her economy… so on and so forth. As for the advantages of the exercise, Punita says, “It makes students undertake an in-depth research about a country, which if not for this project might sound tedious and boring.”

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Fit to be a father
Abhishek will make a great Paa, says Aishwarya Rai Bachchan
Radhika Bhirani

Aishwarya Rai says she is fully convinced that actor-husband Abhishek Bachchan will make a good father in real life because he is so "real and rooted".

"Everybody has been asking me if Abhishek will be a good pa (father) in connection with the release of our forthcoming production Paa. I think it's silly for me to be even making the statement. It's given - I married the man. So obviously I have the conviction in the husband he is or the father he will be," Aishwarya, 36, said in an interview here.

Asked about Abhishek's qualities that would make him a good father, Aishwarya laughed and said: "He is very real, very rooted and very human - which I absolutely relate to. His values are evident for everybody to see. We have known each other for so many years. I've seen him with his niece and nephew since the time they were babies. He is so great with kids and I've seen that for the longest time with (his sister Shweta's children) Navya (Naveli) and Agastya. I have no doubts on him whatsoever."

Aishwarya, who will be seen with Abhishek in Ravana, was in the capital to launch the Longines PrimaLuna, a new watch range inspired by the moon and galaxy.

Asked whether she would want a daughter or a son, she said: "Come on...Aren't you like moving at a really fast pace...! Whatever god has in store for us in life (will come)... Life itself is a blessing, let alone to have opportunity to be able to bring a life into this world.

It's really not in our hands ...it's in god's hands. I hope I am just blessed with that experience, I am really looking forward to it and we will certainly cherish it," she added.

Her mother-in-law Jaya Bachchan is a member of the Samajwadi Party, but Aishwarya is doubtful if she will ever head in that direction.

"Life has been so full - haven't even thought about it (entering politics). My life is evidently extremely full in terms of the amount of responsibilities and experiences I am currently having. And I believe, anything you take, you have to be able to commit to and give a lot of yourself to. And I think at this point, life is full and that's what I am giving (my best) to," she said.

On the work front, the former beauty queen is busy with big ticket projects such as Mani Ratnam's Ravana, Sanjay Leela Bhansali's Guzaarish, Rajnikant starrer Endhiran and Vipul Shah's Action Replay.

The actor is also likely to feature as Mumtaz Mahal with acclaimed Hollywood actor Ben Kingsley in Taj, which is based on Taj Mahal.

"After The Last Legion, Sir Ben and I were keen to work together in another project. He has now come with the final draft and he has just sent it over to me. Once we agree on everything, we will take the project forward. He will start scouting for the locations soon," she said.

For now, Aishwarya is looking forward to AB Corp's Paa, which features her father-in-law, megastar Amitabh Bachchan, and Abhishek. The film releases Friday. —IANS

Ab tak Bachchan
Big B to get Lifetime Achievement Award at Dubai Film Fest

Bollywood megastar Amitabh Bachchan will be honoured with the Lifetime Achievement Award at this year's Dubai International Film Festival next week.

The 67-year-old actor will be felicitated at the opening night of the festival on December 9 for his outstanding contribution to cinema. Ranbir Kapoor starrer Rocket Singh-Salesman of the Year will also have its world premier at the festival. Directed by Chak De! India fame Shimit Amin, the film is about Harpreet Singh Bedi, a fresh graduate with low marks but high dreams of having a successful career in sales. Rob Marshall's Nine, an adaptation of the popular stage play will open the 6th edition of the week-long festival.The film, which boasts of a star studded-cast Daniel Day Lewis, Nicole Kidman, Penelope Cruz, Marion Cotillard, Judi Dench, Kate Hudson and Sophia Loren, depicts the midlife crisis of a director struggling with creativity, which leads him into a series of complicated romantic entanglements - including his wife, his mistress and his muse.

Joining the opening film will be the world premiere of City of Life, the first multilingual Emirati film by Ali F Mostafa.Oscar-winning filmmaker James Cameron's much awaited film Avatar will mark the finale to this year's festival. The film, starring Sam Worthington, Zoe Saldana, Sigourney Weaver, Stephen Lang and Michelle Rodriguez shows a world beyond imagination, where a reluctant hero embarks on an epic adventure of fighting to save the alien world he has learned to call home. —PTI

Second coming
Naseeruddin Shah, Padmini Kohlapure team up for Bolo Raam

After a long gap Bollywood verterans Naseeruddin Shah, Om Puri and Padmini Kohlapure will be seen together in murder mystery Bolo Raam.

The film, which is releasing on December 31, marks the debut of Rishi Bhutani and has been directed by theatre actor Rakesh Chaturvedi 'Om'.

Bolo Raam is the story of a boy Raam Kaushik (Rishi), who is charged with the murder of his mother Archana, played by Kohlapure. Raam falls in to a state of shock, brief psychotic disorder, after his mother's death and become silent, refusing to talk or react in any manner.

The story unfolds as the investigating officer, Indrajeet Singh Rathi (Om Puri), consults a psychiatrist Dr N S Negi (Naseeruddin Shah) to determine Raam's state of mind and the reason for his silence.

"I play a psychiatrist who is given a task to make Raam speak so that the truth is unveiled. It is a very intense character and I enjoyed working with Rakesh, who has been a great actor before he came to directing this film," Shah said.

"It feels great to be working with Padmini after a long gap. We last worked together in Wo Saat Din. Also 
teaming up with Om after Maqbool and Shoot on Sight was a nice experience yet again," Shah added.

The film also stars Rajpal Yadav, Govind Namdev and Manoj Pahwa in pivotal roles. The film has been produced by Goldy Bhutani's production company Sree Keshav Films.

The music is by Sachin Gupta and singers Sukhwinder Singh and Sunidhi Chauhan have lent their voices for the film. —PTI 

Sharmila calls better focus and face to raise the profile of IFFI
Booster dose

Veteran actor Sharmila Tagore today called for raising the profile of the International Film Festival of India (IFFI) by getting a prominent film personality to be the face of the festival and ensure a better focus for the event.

"International film festivals need a face to raise its profile. Bureaucrats get transferred whereas prominent film personalities are a continuity. The face of the festival can be a prominent artiste. Besides, Indian cinema does not mean Bollywood. In the last few years, I have seen this event getting Bollywood-centric," she told reporters.

The noted actor also stressed the need for working on the film market to ensure that Indian films got buyers globally.

"We were honoured at the festival for completing 50 years. IFFI could have honoured us better with a good print of Apur Sansar," she said apparently annoyed at the screening of a poor print of the Satyajit Ray-directed 1959 movie starring her and Chaterjee at the festival. —PTI

Kingsley's Mumtaz

Veteran Hollywood actor Sir Ben Kingsley has said that Bollywood actor Aishwarya Rai Bachchan might play the role of Mumtaz in his dream project Taj Mahal, if she approves the script.

Talking to reporters on Monday, Kingsley said, "My wife is going to be in the film. She will play Shah Jahan's first wife, Kandhari Begum, and we are hoping very much if Aishwarya approves this script and loves it and the rest we have to go through the courteous procedure of saying here is the script, show us the interest." Kingsley said he was trying to arrange finances for the film's production.

"In my few days in India, I have to start raising funds to produce Taj Mahal. I have to attract investors to make this film possible. At the moment, it's not fully financed by any means and I know there is a great interest in the project and I am very much hoping although my windows of opportunity is quite small, I am shaking hands with one or two investors and knowing it's going to happen because we do have the script and it's beautiful," he said.

Set to be produced by Kingsley's newly established production company, SBK Pictures, Taj Mahal, a film about Mughal emperor Shah Jahan and his quest to build the Taj Mahal, will be shot in Agra.The film is expected to be released in 2011. —ANI 

Aamir renders apology to Shahrukh's kids for hurting their sentiments
Yeh dosti…

The long standing 'animosity' between Bollywood's two big Khans seemed to be heading for a patch up when Aamir Khan apologised for some remarks about Shahrukh Khan on his blog. Aamir, while tendering an apology to Shahrukh's kids for hurting their sentiments, made it clear that their rivalry was far from over.

"Definitely, I've offered my heartfelt apologies to Shahrukh's kids, not to Shahrukh but to his kids," Aamir said.

The 'cold war' began before the simultaneous release of Aamir's Ghajni and Shahrukh starrer Rab ne bana di Jodi when Aamir claimed that he was the reigning No. One in Bollywood.

Besides, Aamir's remark that he called his dog 'Shahrukh' further fuelled the simmering tension between them. —ANI

Sizzling hot
Metro-35 gets a healthy makeover
Neha Walia

Salads, soups, sandwiches and sizzlers - sounds healthy and yummy too? Well, that's precisely the idea behind S4 Bisro, a fast food solution for those in love with salads and their waistline. Re-launching themselves with S4, Metro Group of Hotels this time has just one agenda, bringing health closer to the platter we enjoy.

"We just wanted to serve the health conscious lot, giving them an elaborate menu as well as satisfaction of a wholesome meal," says Jairaj Singh, the managing director and the brain behind S4.

And, making the nutritionally tailor-made platters will be Devinder Singh Mahal, the executive chef. With over 20 years of experience in the food industry in the US, he is now ready to serve the Indian tastes, your style. "Our menu is based on the concept of healthier you. The menu has fresh green salads, soups, tandoori roasted lean meats, and dressings made of wholesome olive oil and egg less mayonnaise. Even the breads, desserts, sauces, dressings too are fresh kitchen made," he says.

The food too is custom-made. "The menu is built on choice, not mine but yours. The guests have the freedom to choose their own salads, pizzas and pastas at our live pasta bar," says Jairaj. Devinder S. Mahal, who has worked as a chef for Jay Leno, feels serving to Punjabi appetite is a lot different than American tastes. "I had to design each dish according to the Indian taste buds. Like for the salads, people in America prefer oil and vinegar, but here the dressings had to be spiced up a little. You can add your own dressings though with spices, teriyaki, red sauce or barbeque sauce," he explains. For the homely Indian flavour, the options are smoking with sizzlers and herbal soups. Add to that Mexican, continental, Italian, Chinese and the art of serving, the meal comes with enjoyment.

But then with Punjabi taste buds, health and food doesn't exactly mix well? "Before coming out with this concept, we had trial servings of the menu and the response was good. Contrary to the fact that Punjabis don't experiment with their food," says Jairaj, who has a hotel management degree from Australia.

As for some sweet delight, the menu here too has some experimental platter. Apple samosa, served with a scoop of vanilla ice-cream, brownie sizzler and chef's favourite, banana wrap. Feeling greedy? No issues, since the main course is healthy, your waist won't mind binging on the dessert.
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Classic reward
Pandit Yashpaul has been bestowed with Punjab Sangeet Ratan Award-2009
S.D. Sharma

Endowed with a rich melodic character and pregnant with emotional appeal the Hindustani classical music remains the enviable precious treasure of Indian culture and heritage, surging ahead in its invincible glory enrapturing billions of souls the world over. I feel doubly blessed to be an avid apprentice and profound propagator of this noble art for over half a century," opines Pandit Yashpaul "Sagun Piya", undeniably the most illustrious exponent and music stalwart of Agra gharana in the region.

Rightly honored by Punjab Government, Punjab Sangeet Natak Akademy, First Friday Forum and others Pandit Yashpaul will be bestowed with the Punjab Rattan Award-2009 at the ongoing second Rababi Bhai Mardana Shastri Sangeet Sammelan organised by the Punjabi University Patiala.

About what does the Punjab Sangeet Rattan Award-2009 mean to him he says, "It's a very prestigious, pleasing, significant and sacred award for me, as both the sammelan and award is associated with the cherished memory of Rababi Bhai Mardana Saheb disciple associate of the great Guru Nanak Dev ji, the apostle of spiritual wisdom and humanism. This honour is the love of people in recognition of my services to the preservation of our rich musical culture and glory of the heritage. The award inspires and motivates me to maintain the achieved level and explore more for the benefit of humanity as a whole."

Ask him is there enough patronage, governmental or private for promotion of classical music as compared to other genres like the ghazal, folk or pop and he says, "First the popular music does not mean pop or western, in fact it is a product of many sub-cultures, which are a part of the society and Punjabi pop was created and promoted as a sequel to the English pop. Unfortunately the rhythmic content became more pervasive rather than the melody of vocalism. In these forms, however, the socio- cultural and commercial consideration emerged more relevant than the aesthetic criteria. But those performers who have learnt and imbibed the nuances of classical music are doing much better than those who just drifted into the profession with their blind and raw perceptions of music, eventually making their style of singing."

Your suggestion to popularise classical music? "From even the Vedic period classical music, literature and fine visual arts were for the esoteric groups in society. But with so much of technical advancement the TV channels must hold competitions and beam classical programmes like many other reality shows, at least to create awareness. Believe me the compelling charm of classical music will certainly show magical effects."

City-based healthcare advertising agency bags international award
Awards & accolades
Tribune News Service

The 23rd annual 'Rx Club Award' ceremony evening belonged to 'Medivisual Healthworld', a city-based 'Healthcare Ad Agency', which stole the show bagging one Silver and five other awards of excellence. 'The Rx Club Show' has been honouring the creative advertisings and other promotional activities of healthcare and pharmaceutical products since 1986.

The ceremony saw around 38 awards, 10 gold and 28 silver being handed out to various ad agencies of the world in different categories comprising Print, Video, Integrated and Interactive. The winning entries were exhibited and awarded in a glamorous gala of an event at Metropolitan Pavilion, New York City where thousands of healthcare professionals and Industry big names had gathered together. 'Medivisual Healthworld' got huge éclat for their excellent creative skills resulting in one Silver for Unichem's 'Adhair Launch Campaign' - a product for hair loss treatment. The team won five more awards of excellence namely for Lupin's - Telekast L Literature, Sanofi Pasteur's - Calendar 2009, Lupin's Calendar 2009, Unimarck's- Crotec EC literature and Raymed's - Aquanac launch campaign.

Having already won a total of 20 Rx 'Award of Excellence' in last 5 years, this is a big achievement considering the fact that the agency started its operations just seven years back. By winning a Silver award this time, 'Medivisual Healthworld' has proved that their creativity surpasses geographical boundaries too.

Joyous on their success, they feel it's all because of their determination to be different and better than everybody else. A team of well-qualified professionals they feel that this award no doubt is a big satisfaction but bigger satisfaction is felt in the thrill of creating ideas that has yielded response from the consumers as well.

Heavy metal

This time it's the tribal art of Chattisgarh that will inspire the shopper and collector in you. The Chattisgarh Rural Industries Department has brought in over 18 tribal craftsmen from the state in an exclusive exhibition of handlooms and handicrafts called Shabri at Panchayat Bhavan-18.

The best of the tribal arts from Raigarh, Bastar like dhokra, bamboo craft, wrought iron craft and raw silk and kantha work dresses are for the pick. "All the crafts on display here are manual and still follow the primitive method of making," says J.L. Merawi, the exhibition in-charge.

The attraction of the exhibition is the dhokra artthat include show pieces, sculptures and items made from 80 per cent brass and 20 per cent white metal. "From crafting the wax sculpture to making the metal mould, the process is tedious and no machines are used. The designs are elaborately sculpted and the metal is melted at 1100 degree C to give the final form. The entire procedure requires 10-15 days and if any minor mistake appears the whole effort goes waste," Merawi explains. Well, probably the effort justifies the popularity of the art overseas as most of the artifacts are exported. The dhokhra articles are placed between Rs 150-20,000.

Apart from this, bamboo furniture and articles too make for a good buy. Wall hangings, garden furniture, table stands, mirror hangings and bamboo paintings are priced between Rs 200 to Rs 10,000. The next is wrought iron craft, sleek, trendy yet ethnic. They are cost friendly as well with the range in between Rs 100 to 15000. -TNS

On till December 13

The wash artist
Rajendra Prasad, an artist from Lucknow is here to teach the students of College of Art the wash technique
Ashima Sehajpal

Someday before Independence, Avanindra Nath Tagore, renowned artist of Bengal and two Japanese artists discovered a new form of art-wash technique.

We know that artists have always invented art forms but this one was discovered instead. No brainstorming sessions, trails or experiments were conducted; this art form happened by chance, "Tagore while inter-sharing water colour technique with Japanese artists dropped a painting in a water pond, which when was taken out had even pleasing colour scheme," informs Rajendra Prasad, an artist and reader in Lucknow University, in the city on Wednesday to teach wash technique to students of Governement Arts College.

Artists of Bengal school of art then propagated the art form in various universities and colleges across India. "Yet, we have not more than five artists whose genre is wash technique," the reason behind the fading interest he cites is the time consuming procedure.

It takes 15 to 20 days to make a painting with wash technique. The painting done in watercolours on handmade paper is dipped in water for half an hour. It is then dried and re-done with colours before dipping it in water again. The procedure is repeated at least five to six times to bring in the real affect of wash technique. Besides this, Prasad holds abstract art form responsible for the fading interest of artists in any other form, "Till a few years back, only established artists expert at realistic art took to abstract art as the next obvious step. Now, even the beginners are resorting to abstract art, as it is easier, one needn't have to explain it and time consumption is less."

He has even done contemporary art using the wash technique. Exhibitions of his art works held at Lucknow, Delhi, Mumbai, Bengaluru and Chennai won a great response, "It is at times discouraging to see that artists are not game for wash technique, but when artwork and hardwork behind is appreciated at the exhibitions, I realise the potential and uniqueness of this rare art form". He now aims to teach this technique to his students, "I am trying to convince the 'fast food generation' that food on low intensity fire has more taste, rest it's for them to decide."

The wash technique workshop will be conducted on Thursday at the Government College of Art.

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Before they lived happily ever after
Bridal blues are on the rise, say recent researches. A word with newly weds confirms it's real
Mona

The wedding is over, and so is honeymoon but then there is another hurdle before the couple lives ‘happily ever after' - bridal blues or alternatively called post-nuptial depression. The phenomenon, yet to be declared a clinical diagnosis, is the new lexicon in the marital arena. An increasing number of couples are suffering post-nuptial depression, a recent research puts it at one in 10.

The blues hit typically early in married life. The expectations of newlyweds are high, and married life such a let-down after all the planning and excitement of the 'big day'. Adjusting to the new life in which one invests physically, financially and most of all emotionally does not come that easy. While women give in to this 'secret sadness' for they are too embarrassed to open up, men are less open with their feelings to begin with.

"Behind a very rosy picture of marital bliss, the ugly reality came as a shock to me," says Neha, a banker by profession. "For the first two months of marriage, I was in serious depression and often thought of walking out of it," she shares. "Mine was an arranged match. Like every girl's parents, mine too arranged for the best they could. But constant complaining and cribbing about everything related to me made me lose my confidence and shattered the dreams of a happy life. Sharing with husband was taken as complaining, so I opened up to my parents. That was worse; it stressed them no end to see me sad. I suddenly felt alone and was clueless of what to do," she says.

"For me, it was a drastic change of atmosphere that led to depression," says Monika, a resident of Sector 48. "I lost my father when I was young. Seeing my father-in-law drink every evening intimidated me no end. Coupled with indifferent attitude of my new family, the depression I underwent was so strong that I had a miscarriage," she shares.

We talk to Ajay, a senior manager. "I wouldn't call it depression, but yes I faced disappointment in early phase of my married life," he says. "It's not that I expected a lot. Usually one gets married only once and has no clue of what to expect. But there was a certain way I expected my wife to behave towards my parents and she didn't," he says. "But then, soon I realised that marriage is about two people and one cannot control other's mind. One has to let go a lot of things in life," he says.

"All major life changing events whether positive or negative can trigger off stress," says Simi Waraich, a city-based psychiatrist. "As for bridal blues, I would refer to it as adjustment problem. It's definitely a big change - adapting to new people, new atmosphere and dealing with new expectations. I would advice give it some time and don't keep to yourself. Share your feelings with your spouse or a friend or a family member. Things get normal pretty soon," she adds.

Ward off the bridal blues

* Focus on the benefits of marriage

* Confide in someone you trust

* Get adequate rest and exercise

* Start thinking as 'we'

* Who said you weren't supposed to fight? You are. It's normal

mona@tribunemail.com

Angry young man
Why do some people seem to experience more anger than others?

People who are young, have kids or are less educated are more likely to experience anger, concludes a new research. In the study, researchers, led by Professor Scott Schieman from the Sociology Department at the University of Toronto detailed the basic social patterns and contexts of anger.

It was found that younger people experience more frequent anger than older adults. This is mainly due to the fact that younger people are more likely to feel time pressures, economic hardship, and interpersonal conflict in the workplace (three core stressors that elevate anger levels).

Feeling rushed for time is the strongest predictor of anger, especially the "low-grade" forms like feeling annoyed, revealed the study.

Having children in the household is associated with angry feelings and behaviour (i.e, yelling) and these patterns are stronger among women compared to men.

As compared to people with fewer years of education, the well educated are less likely to experience anger, and when they do, they are more likely to act proactively (e.g., trying to change the situation or talking it over).

Individuals who experience more financial strain tend to report higher levels of anger. This relationship is much stronger among women and younger adults.

"The sociological analysis of anger can shed light on the ways that the conditions of society influence emotional inequality. Why do some people seem to experience more anger than others? And what does this say about social inequality and its impact in our everyday lives?" said Schieman. — ANI

Bad manners

Breaking up by sending a text message is bad manners because texting is 'too heartless', believe etiquette experts. Jo Bryant, an etiquette adviser and blogger for Debrett's, which publishes the A-Z of Modern Manners, longer relationships deserve 'face-to-face attention and a decent explanation'.

The expert said: "If it is very early days and you have been on just a few casual dates, then ending it by email or phone is fine. But texting is too heartless.

"Do not break up with someone if they have just received bad news or are in a stressful situation. Or just before Christmas, their birthday or Valentine's Day.

"Avoid any Twitter tirades but only update your status on Facebook when you are sure it's over." In an article, Bryant also wrote that checking mobile phones while having drinks or dinner with friends is bad manners.

She said: "People in the flesh deserve more attention than a gadget, so wherever possible ignore your phone in social situations.

"If you are awaiting an important call, explain at the outset that you will have to take it, and apologise in advance." — ANI

Pet promise…
Loyal companionship, affection, comfort, security and unconditional love, that's what a pet gets in your life

The often-underestimated significance of a pet in the life of a human has been brought forward in a growing body of research that suggests that a household animal can provide a range of relational benefits. Dr Froma Walsh poured the research in two articles, entitled Human-Animal Bonds I, (focused on the benefits of companion animals) and Human-Animal Bonds II, (focused on their role in couple and family dynamics and family therapy).The expert sought to determine the value of the human-animal bond in child development, elderly care, mental illness, physical impairment, dementia, abuse and trauma recovery, and the rehabilitation of incarcerated youth and adults.

She further looked at how the relationship can strengthen human resilience through times of crisis, persistent adversity, and disruptive transitions.

The expert found that a pet maybe seen as part of the healing team and even as a co-therapist in ensuring the well-being by providing a range of benefits, ranging from stress reduction and playfulness, to loyal companionship, affection, comfort, security, and unconditional love. — ANI 

Relatively speaking
Celebration time

This is absolutely true and is even more relevant in today's lifestyle. Today when people are so busy that they have limited time to spend with their own families, family celebrations are the only occasions where one gets an opportunity to meet ones relatives, near and dear ones. Family celebrations give the platform to share, care and to know about each other and to tell the new generation about the relations and the family ties and family web. These type of celebrations are of more significance as compared to past.

G.S Saini, Mohali

Non-connecting wedding

The tongue-tickling aroma of home cooked mithai, the air full of foot tapping numbers of boliyan and tappe upon the thumping skins of dholaks. Well this is the insight into 'shaadi ka ghar'. Do we get to witness all this lavish celebration, feast and gala time in these today's tech weddings? The simple answer is No. It is just another event in the so-called to-do lists of the acquaintances and family members. The bride's trousseau is no longer beaded with stones and gotta by the loving aunts. But it has efficiently been taken over by the high profile event managers and the fashion designers. All that the bride's father is to do is to pay hefty sum of money to them and flash his smile on the wedding D-day so as to get good photographs and memories to cherish. It's very easy to present the world-class cuisine to satisfy the taste buds of the guest list but sadly the warmth and affection lacks. And the showbiz rather than a family affair is solemnized with great pride but without 'pyaar'". Regretfully the thread connecting the families has not been able to put the beads flourishing in the different parts of the world to bind together.

Amanjot Kaur, Patiala

Changed affair

Celebrations are not the same as they used to be. Whole of the village would come together with relatives in arranging the wedding that used to be a weeklong affair. But today it's just a day, people gather in a marriage palace in the morning, by night wedding is over and everyone returns back to their place. There is no time to sit together and share. Money has replaced where emotions used to be. Even the immediate family reaches the venue as guests and professionals take care of details even the rituals. I guess it's a sad scenario.

Manju Sharma, Chandigarh



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