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August 18, 2003, Chandigarh, India
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Principalspeak An eye for an eye sounds good, but it leaves everybody blind! Is it worth it? Revenge is like biting a dog because the dog bit you. It is common sense that you should not forget being bitten but that is only to ensure your are not bitten again. Instead of biting back, we need to learn from this experience. A desire for revenge will harm you more than the person you bear a grudge against. Thus, as Ingrid Bergman says, “Happiness lies in good health and a bad memory. A bad memory helps us to forgive and forget”. The decision to forgive and forget is not simple. But the choice is yours. You can take it in a split second or go through years of agony and heartburn. For months, nightmares invaded Rajan’s sleep and he would wake up with his fists pounding on the bed. He was hammering a cousin, who had stuck an awful blow by snatching away his lucrative business deal that had led to a loss of face, financial setback and a feeling of betrayal. Angry and revengeful thoughts gripped Rajan’s mind, and driven by his frustration, he began plotting and planning revenge. He isolated himself from his friend, who tried to show him sense and advised him to move on. He clung to his pain and tied himself in so many knots that he was soon hospitalised with several ailments. Some months later, when his cousin wrote seeking forgiveness, after hours of introspection, he realised that if he didn’t forgive, he would continue to be the loser. He was letting all happiness and opportunities slip out of his life. Thus, he realised he needed to forgive to take back his life. Forgiveness, is not denying you are angry or pretending that the injury didn’t hurt. It is not an act of reconciling - indeed you can forgive the offender but choose not to resume the relationship. Forgiveness is to experience more moments of peace and to rethink how you feel about being hurt. ‘It is moving from continually replaying your personal grievance story to revisiting it, so that you are no longer a victim of the past’. An oft-repeated question is, “If others do not forgive you, why should you forgive others?” This is for you to decide. If you wish to boil in your juices, very good. Go ahead! But, if you wish to restore your peace of mind, you have to learn to come out of it. A statement like, “I can forgive, but I can’t forget” reflects a closed mind. It needs doors, windows and ventilators to get the negative thoughts out. Do not become a garbage collector and clutter your minds with old grudges. “Forgive and forget” is the simplest solution. It spring cleans the mind and brings in a positive mindset. “Forgiveness is not an occasional act; it is a permanent attitude”. So, develop it. We all make mistakes and thus to forgive others reflects emotional maturity. It is not a sign of “weakness” or that you consider the others person’s act just, it simply means that you have the ability to rise above negative emotions. “Anger, resentment and unforgiveness breed diseases of the soul as well as the body”. Believe me, forgiveness is a good medicine, which restores physical, moral and spiritual health. Try it. |
CBI appeals to court to close graft case against DMS officials New Delhi, August 17 According to the complaint filed in the Special CBI court on November 7, 2002, Akash Laxman, DMS Officiating General Manager, Virender Singh Joon, Store Officer and Om Prakash Sangwan of Cascade Counsel Tech Pvt Ltd of New Delhi and others had conspired to purchase 149 fire extinguishers worth Rs 42.65 lakh for pecuniary benefits without floating tenders. The purchase was beyond the financial powers of Laxman, who was only officiating as the general manager of the organisation. Purchase beyond Rs 25 lakh required the approval of the Management Committee of the DMS. The DMS, an organ of the Department of Animal Husbandry of the Union Ministry of Agriculture, is engaged in the process and sale of milk and its products in the Capital. It was alleged that Laxman had pressurised the then Store Officer V K Narula and Deputy Security Officer Jagdish Chander to put up the proposal for purchase of the equipment without calling the tenders. Even, when Mr Narula refused to obey, he was shifted and Joon was posted as the Store Officer, the complaint alleged. Laxman had also allegedly pressurised Accounts Officer Jasvinder Kaur to make immediate payment to the supplier. Laxman and others had conspired to purchase the equipment through Kendriya Bhandar from Cascade Counsel Tech. Pvt Ltd even though its name was not suggested by the Director General of Supply and Disposal (DGSD), New Delhi. The DGSD had suggested the names of Sumit Industrial Corporation, Kolkata, A K Industries, New Delhi, Ashoka Engineering Co, New Delhi, Bharat Engineering Works, Mumbai, Hitesh Industries, Mumbai, Jangra Engineering, New Delhi and Krunal Engineering Works, Thane for the supply of ISI mark equipment. On July 19, 2002, a committee had recommended for the purchase of the fire extinguishers for the plant and office of the DMS and the deal was through within a month, the complaint had stated. The supply order was signed by Virender Singh Joon on July 29, 2002 and the letter reached the Kendriya Bhandar the same day. The Cascade Counsel Tech. Pvt Ltd had installed the equipment within five days, which was even inspected by a team of DMS officers on August 3, 2002. Such a huge sum of Rs 42,65,044 was paid on August 13, 2002 by the DMS to the Kendriya Bhandar. The supplier was given the payment of Rs 37,84,340 by the Bhandar on August 19, 2002 after deducting its five per cent commission, said the report filed in the court of Special Judge. All the accused were booked under sections 120-B, 420 of the Indian Penal Code (IPC) and Sections 13, 13 (1)(d) of the Prevention of Corruption Act for alleged conspiracy, cheating, bribery, misuse of official position and loss to the public exchequer.
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