Youth is as
youth would be
APROPOS of Nonika Singhs
write-up "Youth is as youth would be" (March
6), one has to be well past 30, in order to be taken
seriously. In our country, youth is treated indulgently,
as floundering boys and girls, who need to be shepherded
firmly. Whether it is choosing subjects at college or
university, opting for a particular career or taking a
decision (howsoever personal), rarely are they allowed a
free hand.
"You are too young to
decide for yourself", go for the civil services
before it is too late", "You should get married
soon, it is not good to have long courtship" etc.
are commonplace remarks. Parental concern is natural and
understandable but when friends, relatives, family
friends and acquaintances step in to advise it is a
trifle overwhelming.
Perhaps a gentle steering
is necessary at this tender age. Discussions where both
sides get an equal opportunity to state their viewpoints
are unthinkable in our society where an argument with
elders is not only a sign of defiance and disrespect but
it is also supposed to portray lack of good upbringing.
Friendly, open-minded debates are bound to be more
effective than threats and liberal advice heaped
together.
Agreed that parents want
to shield the unexperienced youth from unnecessary
heartaches and disillusionments. The parents want to
guide them before it is too late and they go astray.
The fact, however, remains
that an individual has to undergo every experience
himself or herself for it to be meaningful. It has to be
unique and personal, no one can lend you an experience
howsoever profound and valuable it may be. The
realisation that comes from within ones self is
bound to be stronger, more permanent than the smug
"I told you so" and imposed moralising.
Moreover, it is difficult to accept the thesis that there
exists any transcendental merit in years and that age is
always synonymous with wisdom and youth with
irresponsibility and immaturity.
Why should the youth be
denied the joy of discovering every facet of life
themselves? Of course, they will make mistakes, they will
stumble and fall. But do let them grope for their
foothold in life. Because when they get up and walk
again, it will be with steps not only more purposeful and
confident but with a stride that is sure to be wiser.
Above all, if youngmen and
women are treated with due respect, they can contribute a
great deal to the welfare of the nation as well as their
own welfare.
K.M. VASHISHT
Mansa
II
Going by the aggressive
behavioural pattern of our youngsters, their errant code
of conduct and the desperation felt by their parents, one
would conclude that they are pushing not only themselves
but the whole society into a dark era of desolation and
gloom.
The achievement-oriented
youth is growing egocentric. Everything, even social and
moral values, is judged from a utilitarian angle. Even
the artistic and creative vocations have become
instruments of monetary gains.
It is unfortunate that for
this wayward behaviour of the young generation, we put
the blame on technological growth and satellite invasion.
How ironical it is that while we have gone beyond the
Internet in communication, the communication channels
between the parents and their young wards are closing
down.
The fault does not solely
lie with the youth. In the first place parents are
overambitious and want to realise their own frustrated
dreams through their children. The childs best
efforts dont satisfy, much less please, us till he
proves himself to be the best in a given situation.
Secondly, society has
failed to provide a role-model to its youth. In the
present day socio-political set-up, we dont have
the likes of Ram Mohan Roy, Vivekananda, Nehru, Patel,
Tagore etc. In a society which thrives on corruption,
nepotism, hypocrisy and which encourages the likes of
Laloo Yadav, Bal Thakeray, Jayalalitha etc., it would be
too much to demand idealism from the youth.
Unless society sets a
role-model before them, the youth will continue to be
attracted towards the glamorous life of TV stars and
self-centred politicians.
VED GULIANI
Hisar
On
comets
This refers to the Dream
Analysis column (January 23). Vinaya Katoch, giving
explanation to a dream by Kalyan Singh, says:
"Comets bring disturbances in life. Its appearance
portends calamity among the nations". I disagree
with this. Today we all know that comets are heavenly
bodies that come from outer space and revolve around the
sun. Today it has been proved by scientists that no
untoward happening is associated with a comet. As we are
heading forward, such kind of explanations will make
people believe in age-old superstitions associated with
comets and eclipses.
VINEET TULI
Solan
Bus to
peace
Apropos of the write-up
"Bus to Peace" by K.V. Prasad (February 27),
small gestures of big persons at appropriate occasions
pay rich dividends. India is a peace-loving country and
such steps reflect not only its mature and prudent
thoughts but also its forsightedness. It is better to win
an enemy by an obligation then by doing harm to him.
Love, faith and trust are more powerful tools than lethal
weapons.
Vajpayees visit by
bus will prove to be an important milestone in
strengthening the relationship between the two countries.
This visit will bear more fruit if it is reciprocated by
Pakistan.
ANUP K.
GAKKHAR
Jalandhar
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