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March 3, 2003, Chandigarh, India
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PRINCIPALSPEAK DEAR children, I am glad to have this opportunity to return to you some of the strength that I draw from your generation. Four years ago, an intelligent Class XII science student was preparing for IIT examination. He often spent a lot of time in flying all sorts of planes on flight simulator and this was a constant matter of fights between him and his mother. Mother accused him of wasting hard-earned money as well as his talent. And the son accused her of not letting him live his life in his own way. Then one day, the mother and the son went for a walk. Anxious mother said “Beta there is so much competition. You will lag behind if you don’t work harder.” The son shot back: “Mom, you were born in easy times so you are scared of competition, but I am born in times of competition and I can handle it. Mother was taken a back. The son further said, “You feel stressed because you have decided only one course of action for me, and that is studying at IIT. But, I am not stressed because I have many options. I want to be a Computer Engineer But I can study at IIT / DCE / IP / any institution.” That boy was my son and he taught me the biggest lesson of my life. Lack of options brings stress. Always look for options because they do exist. At the end of Class XII, my son did not get through IIT entrance, but he got through IP University entrance. A bit dejected, we went for a walk again. I asked him to drop one year and prepare for IIT. He said: “Mom, if I get through IIT next year, the cost will be one year of my life. If I join IP University, the cost will be a lesser starting salary. I am prepared to get less salary but not to lose one year”. I learnt my second lesson. Every option comes with a cost as well as benefit. The trick is to correctly assess the costs and the benefits and choose the option according to your own strengths and weaknesses. Children, I was amazed to hear my son talking so logically. Even if I did not agree with him, I could see that he thought about the problem, and had an action plan. My son did not see life in the way I saw it, but I knew he was well-prepared for the challenges of life and this took away all my stress. From then on, I could let him be! Here is one lesson for us elders. We transmit stress when we insist on a fixed behaviour. We stunt growth. We do not have to fit children into perfect moulds but only manage the deviations on the bases of the ideals. And for the children, I suggest a small deviation: take that little walk with yourself and with your parents, create that special time to communicate with yourself and your parents. Let them know what your action plans are and they will be more than ready to walk with you on your chosen path. Above all, remember that even if you make mistakes, its OK. Madhu Chandra,
Principal, Birla Vidya Niketan |
Wrestler murder case: Court refuses bail to accused New Delhi, March 2 Additional Sessions Judge B. B. Choudhari turned down the bail plea of Ram Niwas, one of the six persons of a family accused of killing Joginder on September 16 last year due to his growing proximity with a girl of the Brahmin family. All accused are presently in custody. Pleading for the bail, senior counsel R. K. Naseem contended the case was a concocted one as the dying declaration of the deceased was not recorded despite his being in his senses. Assisting the prosecution, advocate Ravinder Singh, however, submitted that his release at this stage would come in the way of justice. Just four months before being murdered, the Jat wrestler had topped in the 50 kg category at the Delhi Cadet Wrestling Championship. Despite the time for selection having expired, due to his promising performance he was selected as a special case for participation in an international competition in Germany sometime before his death. According to the prosecution, Om Prakash, the main accused in the case, along with his sons Anil Kumar, Sunil Kumar and Jitender and nephews Anand Prakash and Ram Niwas killed the promising wrestler because he was going around with his daughter despite their warning. The accused, residents of Akbarpur Majra village, had tied Joginder with a rope before hitting him with cricket bats and stones. They had even chased away his uncle Naresh, one of the two eyewitnesses in the case, who had come from his village, Tejpur, looking for the deceased. |
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