The heart has
its reasons
By Ruskin Bond
ITS snowing outside. The temperature
is a couple of degrees below zero. An icy wind howls
outside my window. Not the ideal weather for a
65-year-old writer living on his own in a cottage in the
Himalayas.
But then, I am not alone
and I am not cold I am not hungry or ill. I
sit before a blazing log-fire, surrounded by the members
of my adopted family all nine of them!
I am not sure if I adopted
them, or if they adopted me, but here we are, all living
together, sometimes quietly, sometimes noisily, the
result of a spontaneous relationship that came about
almost 30 years ago.
I have been asked to write
on the subject of spontaneous relationships (rather than
failed or fading relationships), and I am happy to do so.
Almost all my relationships, from boyhood to the present
time, have been the result of spontaneous rather than
calculated intent.
Lets take this
happy, if somewhat chaotic, family scene.
Prem was then 18, a poor
boy from a poor village in the hills, wandering around
the hill-station looking for work. I was 35, still
struggling to establish myself as a writer. I
couldnt afford to employ anyone; I was entirely on
my own at that time. Prem met me on the local bus; we
talked about football, films, animals, among other
things. When we got down, he helped me carry my heavy
suitcase home. Then he helped me prepare a simple but
satisfying evening meal. After a couple of hours we were
old friends. He came to stay with me and has never been
away except for brief visits to his village.
The following year he
returned from the village with his wife. She taught
herself to read and write. Their first child, Rakesh, was
born. He captured my heart almost immediately. Then came
Mukesh, with a charm of his own. Then Savitri
"Dolly" to me a great help over the
years. Rakesh grew up and married Bina. This too was the
result of a spontaneous relationship! Siddharth was born.
A bundle of mischief. Then Shrishti, as pretty as peach
blossom. Then Gautam, my "Tiny Tim". Everyone
calls me dada, grandfather.
Its great being
called dada. It makes me feel younger by the day.
Even as I write, Gautam is sitting on my knee, trying to
wrench the pen from my hand. Siddharth has just received
a spanking from his mother for trying to eat snow.
Shrishti is busy bursting the last of the New Year
balloons. Prem comes in with wood for the fire. Dolly has
brought me a cup of soup, but heres Rakesh with a
glass of brandy for me. On the pretext that its
freezing outside, I start with the brandy. It helps me to
concentrate on this article. Who says a writer needs
perfect peace and quiet in which to be creative? My
family has taught me to write under all conditions.
Those of my readers who
imagine me to be a reclusive old bachelor living in a
cave or an ivory tower will by now have realised that I
am a member of a lively and vibrant household, in which
there is never a dull moment. All this because of a
spontaneous relationship that began in 1970!
Ive been lucky, of
course. Not all spontaneous relationships turn out to be
successful. Some do fade away. Friends come and go, like
ships passing in the night. I have had my own
disappointments. Sometimes Ive been let down by
those in whom Ive placed an impulsive trust. But
that can happen to anyone. Our own relatives can betray
us, and those were relationships of another kind. I, for
one, have always been ready to hold out my hand in
friendship. Every stranger is my brother or sister unless
proved otherwise. Every child is my teacher.
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