Self-discipline
at work
By Taru Bahl
EVER wondered how some of us
manage to pack in so much in the course of a day while
the rest are left making excuses? We keep a
ready-reckoner at hand detailing the exact reasons for
our inabilities and poor performance levels. The list of
deterrents could include things like the unbearable heat,
mood swings, lack of infrastructure, inadequate
resources, a non-supportive family or bad habits.
We first accept these
inevitables and then suffer like martyrs, as though we
have little choice. It never occurs to us that we can
turn the wheel of fortune and rewrite what fate has
decreed for us. When we see Ustaad Zakir Hussain on the tabla,Hari
Prasad Chaurasia on the flute, or Dr Trehan performing a
delicate heart surgery, we like to believe that they are
gifted and special.
We resign ourselves to
our fate thinking that we the lesser mortals
are ordained to lead a nondescript existence. We
forget that genius is 99 per cent perspiration and only 1
per cent inspiration. We fear that in trying to
discipline ourselves we would have to overhaul our
lifestyle, value system and personality attributes
and that they would make us less likeable in our peer
group.
We would much rather do
what the average person around us is doing, even if it
means never actualising or knowing the true worth of our
potential. We do not pause to think that there is nothing
that self-discipline cannot transform. Concentration,
will power, determination, perseverance and endurance
cannot just improve the way we think, feel, act and
behave but also the way we look at life. Who can then
stop us from becoming another eminent cardiologist, or a
world-renowned tabla maestro if we set our mind to
it?
What keeps
A, a keen mountaineer, from following his
role model, the famous Chris Bonnington? He opts out of
every high altitude expedition. He is convinced that his
fitness, stamina level, sense of timing and survival
instincts are grossly inadequate. B is an
entrepreneur but even after three decades in the
business, he remains a small time manufacturer. He feels
his limitations are not a result of opportunities lost or
talents unrealised but because he was not lucky enough to
be born in a Birla, Tata or Godrej family. C
envied the reputation and respect his boss commanded in
trade circles. Seeing the boss frenetic pace of
work he assumed that the latter worked eight days a week
minus fun and frolic. He dismissed a similar lifestyle
because he couldnt see himself sacrificing his
share of enjoyment. He was a late-riser, used to partying
into the wee hours of the morning. If his career was not
going anywhere, so be it.
All three instances are
examples of how most of us accept certain myths. Myth
number one is that successful people are plain lucky.
Myth number two is that we cant change the way we
are, we can only fine-tune what we already have. Myth
number three is that discipline means curtailing freedom
and desires. Myth number four is that we cannot change
our destiny.
It is myths like this
that prove to be stumbling blocks as we stubbornly refuse
to change ourselves. Like still water we stagnate,
develop weeds and, finally, start stinking.
Have we ever asked
ourselves as to why must we resign to being inarticulate
communicators or anything else which places us a point
lower on the self esteem-self reliance barometer.
Napoleon proudly claimed
that the word "impossible" didnt exist in
his dictionary. If he did not know how to get somewhere,
he would find out, no matter how many heads had to roll.
This is why highly effective people carry their agenda
with them. Their schedule is always their servant, never
their master. They organise weekly and adapt daily.
However, they arent capricious in changing their
plans. They exercise discipline and concentration,
without submitting to moods and circumstances. Which is
precisely how they manage to pack in so much in the
course of a day. It is not as if the gods are kinder to
them or that they were born successful achievers. They
perhaps saw opportunities where we didnt and they
kept pushing themselves till they reached where they
wanted to. They honed existing skills, acquired new ones,
shed old habits and learnt to better records.
People, who are
disciplined, appear to be better managers of their time.
This is because they know how to say no to
interruptions and distractions. They do not waste time
procrastinating and postponing decisions.
Self-disciplined people rarely succumb to substance
abuse. Even when friends may be experimenting with drugs
and alcohol they stand their ground and firmly deny
themselves a trip.
They do not feel the
need to follow the herd just because it is the done
thing. Their self-esteem is not linked to extraneous
factors of what and how the world perceives them to be.
It is derived from what they are and how they wish to be.
This is why they may not have a string of boy and girl
friends just because their social network legitimises
promiscuous lifestyles. They are certainly not prudish or
spoilsports. Their clarity of thought stems from a clear
understanding of what their inherent strengths and
limitations are.
If they appear to be
excellent time managers it is because they effectively
schedule blocks of prime time for core tasks. They
prioritise work; doing less demanding things when their
fatigue levels are higher. They do more and better
because they exercise the discipline of doing important
and difficult work first, deferring routine jobs to other
times. This gives them the power that comes with being
products of their decisions, goals and plans and not to
their whims and situational baggage.
How is it that two boys
from the same class and background with similar dreams of
turning into millionaires by the time they are 20, end up
in two opposing directions? While one succeeds in
fulfiling his desire, the other turns into a waster who
lives off his elder sisters earnings. Achievers are
quick to point out that if one wants to turn dreams into
reality one must learn to focus on the doughnut and not
on the hole. According to them, goals are nothing but
dreams with a deadline and an action plan.
When we confuse goals
with dreams and wishes, we wait for miracles to take
place. And people who have worked their way to the top
will vouch that just the way there are no short-cuts,
there are no free lunches either. Desires, dreams and
wishes are all very well but if one wants to see them
fulfiled they must be supported by the pillars of
discipline, direction, dedication and deadline
management. It is the supreme power of discipline which
motivates us to bring about massive changes in ourselves
and of undoing the wrongs inflicted on us.
There are time when
situations and circumstances seem indomitable, when the
only sensible recourse appears to walk away rather than
be humiliated, led down and defeated. But as the 13th
century Hindu philosopher Shankaracharya mentioned that
the greatest warrior too when standing in the midst of
the battlefield sweats with fear. While his body maybe
fearful, his spirit is fearless. He is able to detach
himself from the fear of the body and mind as he clings
to the fearlessness of the spirit which keeps prodding
him to go on.
Self-discipline then is
not about how one feels, what one likes and how good one
is. Rather, it is about the guts to take definitive
action and get things moving in life. It includes plain
old will power and the ability to set goals. The formula
for success, be it for an Oscar- winning actor or an
award-winning singer, is not just the pride in what he
does and achieves but the guts and stamina to work
tirelessly to accomplish these objectives.
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