It pays to be
honest
By Taru
Bahl
MOST of us agree that honesty is the
fountainhead from which flow qualities like integrity,
uprightness, truth and the ability to stand by ones
convictions. An honest person is like a lighthouse to
many others who try and lock on to the guide-beam while
navigating the choppy waters of life. An honest person
leads by example, never succumbing to offers or threats
even in moments of distress. Money, power, love and fame
do not sway him from the centre, which is the core of his
values and, therefore, his existence. We also know that
to be truly honest, we must be honest in thought,word,
deed and action. But can such a person can exist in the
21st century? And if he does, can he aspire to be a
successful and happy achiever?
There are no two opinions
on whether you should be honest or not. What can and does
change with each generation is the manner in which you
choose to pass on the message of honesty to those around
you. If you are honest , there is no need to declare it
from the rooftops and then hope that you are treated in a
"fair and just manner." Today, if you are
honest and ethical, you must also be smart and savvy in
your approach. A martyred, idealistic, holier-than-thou
image is likely to meet with disdain and hostility. The
idea is not be behave like a saint and to be worshipped
as one. Without looking for acclaim and recognition, we
should strive towards living an honest life, not for
others but for our own selves. There is no need to show
off incorruptibility. Instead, we must use our
intelligence, wisdom, tact and humour to deal with
dishonest people and the unfair situations created by
them.
There is a parable about a
poor but clever little boy who excitedly hailed a vendor
to buy some gooseberries. The vendor tried to distract
his attention, so that he could tamper with the weights.
Not one to be fooled easily, the boy demanded an
explanation for the under-weighment. The vendor cunningly
said, "Less will be easier for you to carry, my
child". The boy nodded and handed him some change.
Finding the amount to be short, the enraged vendor
shouted at the boy, "Do you think I am a fool who
does not know how to count?" Unruffled, the boy
replied, "Sir, I was only doing what I learnt from
you a moment ago. I handed over less money to you so that
you have no difficulty in counting it". The vendor
got the message alright.
In other words, the boy
knew that he lived in an unequal world. He had the choice
of resorting to cheating, lying, or hoodwinking the
vendor. But he used his sharp wit to get the better of an
unfair situation without resorting to dishonesty. The
boy, perhaps, knew intuitively that the world has its
quota of dishonest persons and the choice before him was
to either follow their example or to meet life on his own
honest terms.
There should be no
confusion in our minds as to what honesty is, although we
may choose to ignore, belittle or betray the norms which
go into making an honest man or woman out of us. When we
fill in fake travel vouchers in the office or botch up
our personal accounts to gain a few hundred rupees from
dad, we may justify our actions by making a hundred
excuses. But there is no way we can prove that our
actions are honest.
If we want to be honest,
the first thing we have to do is to learn to be brutal
with ourselves, with the way we think and act. We have to
firmly decide whether short-term gains are worth
compromising on lifelong values. This is something we
have to resolve within ourselves and abide by under all
circumstances. Honesty is never relative. One can never
be less honest or more honest. One can only we either
honest or dishonest. There arent any shades of
grey. This column is only a facilitator, a guide, an
inner voice which can prompt you. The action ultimately
has to be taken by you. You have to be convinced that
even if there are no immediate and/or tangible gains, it
still makes sense to stick to ones ideals.
We believe that honesty
always pays. This may not appear to be entirely true,
especially if one is looking for physical/tangible gains.
If we resolve not to cheat in our examinations, it
automatically doesnt mean that we will land up with
a distinction. Or if we own up and confess to a friend
that we have betrayed her confidence, we should not
expect to be forgiven immediately. This honesty may in
fact make us lose that friend and may make one the only
one in class with the lowest grade. But you are still a
winner because you had the moral courage to do what you
thought was correct. This realisation makes one stronger
and more authentic.
There is a story about a
woodcutter whose axe falls into the river. The
woodcutters livelihood is threatened because he is
not in a position to buy a new axe. Mercury, the
messenger of gods, sees the unhappy man and decides to
help him.
He dives into the river
and brings out a golden axe. The woodcutter
unhesitatingly tells him that it doesnt belong to
him. Mercury dives once again and this time brings out a
silver axe. The woodcutter looks even more crestfallen,
and says that it is not his. Mercury dives one more time
and brings out a crude iron axe. The woodcutter jumps up
in joy, takes it and moves towards the forest. Mercury
calls out to him and gifts him all the three axes.
The woodcutter could have
lied and taken the golden axe. He could have freed
himself from the bondage of hard labour.But the thought
of taking what was not his, did not even occur to him.
For him, honesty was not a ploy which would fetch him a
reward at the end. He did not resort to honesty because
he thought it was the done thing. By being honest, he was
only being true to himself.
An honest person should be
able to hold his head high and allow his honesty to
inspire others, not by virtue of his noble intentions
alone but by proving to the world that his honesty works
wonderfully for him.
The Pied Pipers
story is well known. He used his magic flute to free the
people of Hamlin from the menace of rats. He kept his
side of the promise but the greedy, selfish
decision-makers of the town did a volte-face. Their logic
was: the rats have gone, this maverick Piper cannot harm
us and we can be richer by not giving him the ridiculous
amount of cash we had promised to him in our desperation.
The Piper now played a
different tune on his flute and this time it is the
children who follow him into the cave of no return. The
Piper used his skill in punishing the dishonest.
At the end of the story we
sympathise with the Piper and not the wise men of the
town. For, everything else being equal, all of us like to
deal with people who are honest. Honesty is, therefore,
the best policy to live by.
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