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	stress buster Learn to let go… Renee singh With the coming of New Year, we mostly focus on all the new things we are setting ourselves up for. But there is more to care for. In our lives our attitude, actions and many lifestyle traits bring undue stress. We have to learn to identify these negative traits that are pulling our lives down. Identify traits All of us to some extent are carrying negative thoughts and negative habits. Over a period of time we become so comfortably settled in our negativity that we find it very hard to let go of these patterns. But once we have identified these habits things become much easier. We can actually contemplate dropping off a few of the negative traits we are living with simply by letting go of them. Releasing grudges Letting go of negative perspectives may seem difficult initially but once we loosen our grip on them, letting go gets easier. Even if it seems difficult at first letting go becomes easy slowly. You may congratulate yourself each time you are successful. Progress will be worthwhile ultimately. If you are holding on to anger from the past, ask yourself - are you getting any benefit from this? You would realise it's of no use, let go of it. Express yourself In the process of trying to forgive, express yourself. You don't need to tell them that you have forgiven them. Just free yourself from those negative feelings. Gratitude journal Research shows that journaling about benefits you have got from negative situations helps you to move on more easily. Start a gratitude journal. Cultivate empathy Empathy is associated with forgiveness. So instead of seeing people as enemies, try to understand what they are dealing with. Look at life from their perspective. Try to realise that their motive was not to cause you pain, that just happened. A lot of times when we are under stress we engage in a lot of activities that help us feel better momentarily, but actually create more stress in the long run. A lot of times we act without thinking and this creates conflict in our relationships, undermines productivity at work and puts us into a cycle of stress. Normally these habits go unnoticed and create a vicious cycle of stress. We need to find adequate activities and effective strategies to break the bad habits. Emotional eating When we are under stress we are prone to eating even when we are not hungry. This gives an initial boost and then crash We eat less healthy food and feel instant joy that doesn't stay on Dessert and dark chocolate make you feel better only in the short run Too much indulgence in food leads to mood swings and poor overall wellness. Weight gain is a natural consequence of eating. All these factors lead to greater stress. Retail therapy Shopping brings in a quick and powerful emotional lift, specially for women. It has its benefits. Buying small items bring happiness and motivate us towards healthy changes. We just need to keep shopping under control. Social support This is when we look for social support. It is one of the most helpful stress relievers, but sometimes we get stuck with it. Problem is when we talk about our problems too often, too intensely or too singularly, we get to a point where we focus only on the negative. Sometimes we create a repeating loop of negative thoughts. It damages our physical and mental states. Can become a negative spiral and increase our stress levels. Get help Sometimes it is difficult to let go of the past, specially if offending acts were ongoing or traumatic. If you find it difficult to forgive you need to work with a therapist who can help you work with your feelings at a deeper level and personally support you through the process. When you are hurt forgiving can be very difficult, but it is the best thing you can do for your own emotional health. (Singh is a Chandigarh based psychotherapist)
	Weight watch Add fibre in your food Renupreet Kaur A high-fibre diet tends to make a meal feel larger and helps to stay fuller for a greater amount of time. High-fibre diets also tend to have fewer calories for the same volume of other food. Fibre is also known as roughage. It is the indigestible part of plant foods that pushes through our digestive system, absorbing water along the way and easing bowel movements. Fibre is made up of non-starch polysaccharides, such as cellulose, dextrins, inulin, lignin, chitins, pectins, beta-glucans, waxes and oligosaccharides. Why is it good? Foods high in fibre are usually healthier and lower in calories. High-fibre foods take longer to chew and tend to prolong eating time. Eating more slowly allows your body enough time to begin to experience feelings of fullness so that you are less likely to overeat. Fibre-rich foods help watch your calorie count, including, avoiding saturated fats. People with diabetes, who consume a lot of fiber, tend to need less insulin than those whose fiber intake is low. It protects you from developing heart disease by reducing your cholesterol levels. The consumption of fiber may also reduce your risk of developing constipation, colitis, colon cancer, and haemorrhoids. Types of dietary fibre foods Dietary fibre foods are generally divided into soluble and insoluble fibre. Soluble fibre gets easily dissolved in water. Good sources of soluble fibre include fruits, vegetables, oat bran, barley, seed husks, flaxseed, dried beans, lentils, peas, soy milk and soy products. Insoluble fibre does not dissolve in water. As it goes through the digestive tract it does not change its form. Good sources of insoluble fibre include wheat bran, corn bran, rice bran, the skins of fruits and vegetables, nuts, seeds, dried beans and wholegrain foods. Both types of fibre are beneficial to the body and most plant foods contain a mixture of both types. How much do we need? Based on various researches, the recommended daily amount of fibre for women is 25 grams and for men, it is 38 grams. However, after the age of 50, it is recommended that women drop their intake to 21 grams and men to 30 grams. Most studies show that your ratio of fibre should be three parts insoluble to every one part soluble. Keep in mind Introduce fibre to your diet slowly and do not eat it in excess. Start taking fibre at a low dose and increase it every one to two weeks if you are not used to eating roughage earlier. Eat breakfast that contain barley or oats. Include multigrain breads and brown rice in your meals. Include more fruit, vegetables and legumes in your diet as fruits and vegetables are not only high in fiber but also rich in vitamins and other essential nutrients. Add nuts or seeds as a snack or use in meals. Include wholemeal crackers in your diet intake. Drink six to eight glasses of water every day. It is important to be sufficiently hydrated for healthy digestion. Take a walk after you eat a fibre rich diet and do adequate exercise on a regular basis, both can ease bloating and help with overall digestion. A very high-fibre diet can decrease absorption of some important minerals such as iron, zinc and calcium. It is better to consult your dietician to set your dose for dietary fibre in natural manner rather taking it from fibre supplements. (Renupreet Kaur is diet therapist and obesity expert)
	Wearabout A sheer pleasure to watch Ashima Batish She is the latest muse of Indian fashion designers. Deepika Padukone's style appears effortless, original, chic and classy at the same time. Look back in 2013 and you realise that it is not just her box office exploits, also her perfect style statement that made her the glamour industry's darling. Continuing with her run of stylish turnouts at the Red Carpet, Deepika wore a golden sheer-in-places gown by Guarav Gupta at the Filmfare Awards held recently and how she glittered! Not only she won the award of best actress for her role in Goliyon Ki Rasleela, Ramleela, also was the best dressed at the event. Hair to stay: Deepika knows how to create a balance. If her gown was all bling, her hairdo was simple. The side-swept loose curls were plain enough to keep the focus on her bold dress. Dress material: When it is Gaurav Gupta, you know the creation will be an aesthetic mix of experimentation and elegance. (By the way, the designer is a hit on the Red Carpet, as Aditi Rao Hydari also sported a gown by him at the same event.) Deepika picked the golden sheer dress that went opaque at the right places. The hide- and-seek gown hid as much as it revealed and looked aesthetically beautiful. The silhouette of the gown was straight, without any additional drama, which in fact wasn't required also, as there was already enough bling. How it ended at the seams, exposing her golden heels, looked the work of the master-craftsmen that Gaurav Gupta is. Make-up fact: Her bright red lipstick stood out, as it was intended to be. Rest of it didn't look over-the-top. The contouring was so proper that her face cut become prominent, adding to her beauty. Accessory point: With a golden dress, you actually don't need any accessory to accentuate your style and Deepika knew it. She only wore twp yellow sapphire rings and a sleep yellow bracelet and that worked well with her outfit. Her stilettos in golden, which were so visible from underneath the golden gown, couldn't have been replaced by anything better. She didn't wear earrings. And that made Deepika's face grab all the attention.
	In a new role... Punjabi Circle International (PCI), a UK based organisation has made Surinder Shinda, an acclaimed Punjabi folk singer, as its brand ambassador in the state. Recently Surinder Shinda was honoured by being presented the life time achievement award in Punjabi Cultural Award ceremony in London, organised by Punjabi Circle International. —TNS Cause bound: Surinder Shinda (second from left) receiving the award
	Play act "TIFLI", ASSITEJ India's first International Theatre Festival for young audience is going to be organised Feb 17 and Feb 23 2014 in Delhi at Bal Bhawan. ASSITEJ, an international Theatre network of Theatre for Children and Young People is organising this festival, which will bring together 15 theatre companies from different parts of the world. They will perform their much acclaimed plays especially devised and designed for children below the age of 13 years. All the plays during the festival will be performed by the professional artists, which are targeted towards children and attempt to educate them through the medium of theatre. This weeklong festival will feature various styles of plays namely Dance Theatre, Object Theatre, Puppet Theatre, Musical Theatre, Mime Theatre and Live action. Performances will be done in 6 different languages of India and abroad. —TNS
	star track A lovely tale Just for fun, we tell you about the past loves of Bollywood superstars. They met, broke up & moved on... Priyanka Chopra and Shahid Kapoor: She has admitted to seeing him. When greater success came calling and so did a bigger superstar, she called off the relationship. Paying the price for her latest success, she is believed to be currently single. Salman Khan and Katrina Kaif: Salman and Katrina were dating for the longest time and everyone thought she would be the one who would finally pin him down for marriage. However, she started looking at the greener pastures (read Ranbir Kapoor). If our sources to be believed, Salman is still not over Kat! Anushka Sharma and Ranveer Singh: They fell in love during the making of Band Baaja Baaraat and looked perfect together. They never admitted to their relationship but went their separate ways after the release of Ladies vs Ricky Bahl. Rumour has it that she is currently dating cricketer Virat Kohli. Ranbir Kapoor and Deepika Padukone: They both debuted at the same time and their romance was the talk of the town. They were madly in love and it was for all to see. Then Ranbir got attracted to Katrina Kaif and his romance with Deepika went kaput. However, his romance with Katrina doesn't seem to be going any smoother. We wonder… Priyanka Chopra and Hurman Baweja: When Priyanka was not as big a star as she is today, she dated Hurman Baweja and dumped him after their movies flopped and when she began working with Shahid Kapoor on Kaminey. Baweja is now ready to marry Bipasha Basu whom he has been seeing for a while.
	Going places Daisy Shah is Salman Khan's new favourite girl and he is recommending her for Soorja Barjatya's film, now that Deepika Padukone is too busy to do it. Party time Kiran Rao hosted a small and private bash at her residence in Mumbai and invited Karan Johar, Ayan Mukerji, Katrina Kaif and Ranbir Kapoor, among others. Aamir is in Europe on a break. An exceptional case Kangna Ranaut has taken time off from her screenwriting course in New York to promote Queen in India. Apparently, no one is allowed to take time off the course like that but NYFA has made an exception for her. Thumbs down Abhay Deol's production debut starring him and girlfriend Preeti Desai has got terrible reviews and is a very boring or pakao movie. What a pity! Family first When Supriya Pathak, received her award for Best Supporting Actress at Filmfare for Raam Leela, Shahid Kapoor who was backstage rushed on to the stage and gave her a tight, warm hug. It was a very sweet moment. She is his stepmother, married to his father Pankaj Kapur.
	Realistic touch Gunday was one of last films that Yash Chopra got associated with. He green lit the project and also gave a lot of his inputs for the film. Yash Chopra was very keen for Ali to shoot the film at an actual coal mine. Yash Chopra even shared options of where all can the shoot be held. When the film went into production YRF was very enthusiastic to weave this through. The coal mine shots are done in an open cast mine in Raniganj which is three hours away from Kolkata. Never before has there been a film shot in this area. Not even, a Bengali or small scale film. The permission bit was not a problem. The authorities were very accommodating. Even when the team went for a recce the authorities gave them access during lunch breaks for them to scan and plan things. Ali also interacted with miners to closely understand their lifestyle, their work conditions etc. He also photographed them to ensure he gets the nuances of the look right. When they went back to shoot, there was an entire area which was allotted to them. Their shooting schedule was two week long and they had no interference from the miners what so ever. The only little hiccup was that while they shot every day, a huge sea of people gathered there out of curiosity. They used to sit there all day long keenly observing the shoot. Ali Abbas Zafar says, "I am glad that Yashji told me to shoot at an actual coalmine. The film and our experiences of making it would not have been the same without it.
	The show must go on… Actor Upen Patel who is currently shooting down South for the mega budget film Ai directed by Shankar seems to have been under the weather with malaria. We hear that the Namastey London actor continued to shoot some of the toughest stunt and action sequences without break despite the director asking him to recover. Our source informs us, "There has been a huge ten day climax sequence being shot which has Upen hanging from a moving train. The international fight director from Iron Man 3 has been roped in to direct this sequence which is unlike any scene seen on Indian celluloid."
	chatter box Fit as a fiddle Famous model and television actor, Nitin Goswami, who is currently playing a pivotal role in the show, Qubool Hain that is telecast on Zee TV, shares his fitness mantra… How do you stay fit? I believe in exercising regularly and having a balanced diet. According to me, it is very important to indulge in some sort of physical activity everyday for 30 minutes at least, it could either be brisk walking, jogging or doing yoga. What’s an ideal workout for you? I think jogging is a perfect and most convenient workout for me. What’s your diet routine? I eat everything and I try not to deprive my body of anything. My breakfast is the heaviest meal of the day, which includes muesli and oats, while the lunch comprises salad, roti, sabzi and dal. In dinner, however, I prefer salads, fruits, and a glass of milk. Additionally, I prefer eating two or three small meals daily, which usually includes a mix of healthy sandwiches, fruits, oats and nuts. Having said this, I believe in eating everything, but I feel that it is equally important to work out regularly. Also, I try and avoid developing a sedentary lifestyle. Is there anything you avoid eating? No, nothing in particular. However, being an actor, I need to be conscious about my food, for which I try to avoid oily food and prefer to eat something, which is healthy yet tasty. How do you de-stress yourself? I love music and it is a great stress buster for me. Once in a while, I also visit the spa for a relaxing full body massage. When do you feel the happiest? I am at my happiest when I am given the opportunity to do quality work, which is of my choice. What are your top tips for a happy life? I believe fitness is one for the first steps to leading a happy life. I prefer to remain fit because I believe that is what makes you confident, smart and happy. My idea of happiness is very simple—Be healthy and fit, most importantly comfortable in your own skin. Icecream or chocolate? I prefer Gulab jamun. Who are the fittest actors and actresses according to you? I believe Vidyut Jamwal and Deepika Padukone are super fit. What is the best advice you have received? The best piece of advice that I have ever been given is that one needs to live and let live. Everyone is different and one needs to learn to appreciate and respect variety in life. What’s in your workout-bag right now? My Nike shoes, my towel and my mp3 headphones. What is your current workout play list? Currently, I am completely hooked to Sunny Sunny from Yaariyan by Yo Yo Honey Singh, Tum Hi Ho from Aashiqui 2 and Ram Chahe Leela from Goliyon Ki Rasleela-Ram Leela. — HRM
	Stronger than ever Post the leap of six years in the show, Saathiya, Devoleena Bhattacharjee aka Gopi, who was blamed her for Meera’s death and thrown out by her family, will be seen as a teacher in Bhopal. She will portray the character of a strong woman, who will take care of her second daughter. While they abandon the sinking ship Apparently, Ankita Lokhande is upset as Zee TV’s Pavitra Rishta will soon air at 6:30pm instead of being telecast at 9pm, which is the primetime. The show that once used to be a top ranker on the TRP charts, has not kept up a good position on the charts in recent times. Ankita, who achieved stardom through the show wanted to quit a while ago, but producer Ekta Kapoor lured her with a younger role. Now most of the cast is planning to quit, let’s see who stays back. It hurts! Buzz is that Karan Kundra is bed-ridden due to a severe back pain. Recently, the actor pulled a muscle while working out. The doctors have advised him to take complete bed and if the pain still does not alleviate, he may have to go in for better treatment.
	Topping the charts Produced by Shashi-Sumeet Productions, the show, Diya Aur Baati Hum that is telecast on Star Plus has managed to maintain the number one position on the television ratings chart. To celebrate this achievement, the unit of the show had a small party, both in Mumbai and Karnal. In the celebrations at Mumbai, Kanica Maheshwari aka Meenakshi Rathi wrote the ratings on Gautam Gulati (Vikram Rathi’s) body, while everyone present cheered. In a romantic pursuit Co-stars Vikas Sethi and Rucha Gujarati, who play a couple in Zee TV's Do Dil Bandhe Ek Dori Se, are apparently seeing each other. Both actors are divorcees and it is a good news for them!
	Astro Turf P. Khurrana ARIES:Minor pinpricks may provoke you. Workers in the factories will cause delays. Personal life will interfere with professional life. Newly married couples may find the atmosphere at home to be a little tense. Tarot message: Put your terms and conditions in writing. Lucky colour: Pomegranate red Magic number: 32. TAURUS:The “Four of Wands” promises an excellent day. Do not feel guilty about taking some time out to look after your mental and physical well-being. Focus on meditation yoga and exercise. Tarot message: Delays are the only obstacle in your way to success. Lucky colour: Ebony Magic number: 42 GEMINI: Charm, diplomacy, respect, and cooperation are the attributes that you need to employ while dealing with people if you want positive results. Job applications will yield good results. Tarot message: Do what is right and watch your best interests. Lucky colour: Pink Magic number: 65 CANCER: Your family may be having a big get together to renew the spirit of the clan. Turn your attention to jobs, which give you an opportunity to make the best use of your intellect. Tarot message: Don’t be dismissive of advice from youthful origin. Lucky colour: Royal blue Magic number: 36. LEO: Now is the time to distinguish clearly between your wants and needs. Your desires seem to have no end, but your bank account will dry up before your wants. Get ready for a potluck dinner at home today. Tarot message: Do not use your energy and resources on others. Lucky colour: Cream Magic number: 33 VIRGO: Stick to what you know and do the best so that you don’t go wrong. There may be some trouble brewing in the family. Listen to a sensible voice of reason before matters spiral out of hand. Tarot message: Your quicksilver mind will bail you out of a tricky situation. Lucky colour: Turquoise Magic number: 64 LIBRA: You will be dragged back to the workplace to deal with urgent crises. Make the best of it by being effective and efficient. A chance encounter with an ex-flame may revive old memories. Tarot message: You find within yourself a fountainhead of a will power. Lucky colour: Saffron Magic number: 24 SCORPIO: You should give a serious thought to your business. Do not put off decisions that need to be made regarding your career. You have the clear headedness and courage to bite the bullet. Tarot message: Focus on the better to mitigate the bitter. Lucky colour: Silver grey Magic number: 54 SAGITTARIUS: Make a major domestic purchase today, as it may not be available next week. Love life suffers due to family problems. You will indulge in fine food and drinks today. Tarot message: Take limited risks with your capital. Lucky colour: Sea green Magic number: 60. CAPRICORN:Put knowledge into practice or learn how to do something better. It will be a very hectic day for businesspeople. A nagging doubt gets cleared. Health needs attention. Tarot message: Plan your life to avoid any delays. Lucky colour: Peacock green Magic number: 29 AQUARIUS: “Fortune” makes it a good day on financial front. Try your luck at a range of speculative possibilities. Women between the age group of 40-45: take care of your health. Tarot message: Use careful judgment while handling property matters. Lucky colour: White Magic number: 61 PISCES: If you shoot for what you really want, it just might happen. Shareholders may find the day to be quite beneficial. Businessmen: Think twice before signing a new deal. Tarot message: Work could pose certain minor difficulties, but do not worry. Lucky colour: Rainbow pastels Magic number: 55
	The year ahead Madan Gupta Spatu If your birthday is February 3... You could run into problems due to forgetfulness at work, so be careful, and check everything thoroughly. You will no longer desire solitude and will finally start enjoying harmonious moments with your beloved. You are gifted with high imagination power, optimism, and enthusiasm this year. However, you need to take extra care of your health this year and visit your doctor frequently for medical checkups. You will enjoy a great marital life. You'll be able to devote some time to a new pastime and will be in a mood for celebration. Emotions run high and both, May and June are full of fun. Positive colours: Yellow, cream, sea green, purple and red Select days: Thursday and Tuesday Favourable numbers: 3, 6 and 9 Gems recommended: Yellow sapphire, red coral, and Ruby Charity on birthday: You may donate white eatables like bread to the needy or to any religious place. You share your birthday with Rakhi Sawant (February 3, 1980, Mumbai), who shot to fame as an item number in the film, Joru Ka Ghulam. The controversy queen, Rakhi, recently made comic comments on AAP party on a TV channel which again brought her in lime light. Rahu and Venus will keep Rakhi bold. Her married life will always remain at stake.