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Tagore’s New Robes
The cultural hub of the tricity, Tagore Theatre-18, has got a rebirth of sorts with a makeover in its design, making it more aesthetically and technologically vibrant than before. With a swanky exterior and classy interiors, it has been reopened to the public after going through a year-long renovation process. And the lady behind the transformation is Namita Singh, a city-based architect, who has attempted to create a state-of-the art yet traditional theatre space for the art lovers. A new entrance, bigger greenrooms, cafeteria and a 360-degree change in its theatre area, the place makes its new ambience felt in style. "The entrance needed to make its presence felt, so we added glass boxes or cubicles at the two junctions. Lighting has been done in the entire area for an electrifying effect," says Namita. Makeover for the better
The changes in Tagore Theatre are positive and for the benefit of the artiste community. It's more spacious now and provides hi-tech facilities for performers. One can't keep clinging to nostalgia, change is the hallmark of culture. To keep pace Rani Balbir
Knur, It gives artistes more space
There is a definite change in the ambience of the theatre, where we have been rehearsing for our show on the reopening
nite. It has a more open feel now, the lighting and sound are state of the art. The greenrooms have improved facilities and are more spacious. We had suggested that full-length mirrors be installed there. This takes care of the artistes' long-felt need. Suchitra
Mitra, The wooden panelling and staircase adds an earthy feel to the entrance. The theatre area and stage have been completely altered with more stylish and warm interiors and larger space. It’s triangular with more stage room and the sitting capacity has been increased from 530 to around 825. "We have tried to create space for an intimate audience as well as a larger audience in the same area. The stage area has wheeled partitions, which can be moved to create a closer feel. Similarly, there is screened partition in the centre of the theatre and the chairs in the middle rows have been done up in black colour. Just to create a perfect ambience for a more intimate and smaller audience," says Namita. Costing around Rs 6 crore and equipped with the state-of-art sound and lighting system, the place promises no less than a perfect theatre experience. There are added comforts for artistes as well improved, bigger and well-furnished greenrooms with facilities. The backstage area is more spacious and the cafeteria has also undergone some makeover. But amid the new, the place retains its traditional touch. "I have made sure that the straight-line structure of the building remains. The main framework with the outside red-brick walls has been kept and only the independent structures inside have been changed. Also, the glass cubicles gel in with the basic structure if the building," says Namita. Calling the new theatre her baby, Namita says she’s proud of it. "I wanted to make theatre-going a celebration, an experience to remember. With these improvements, we hope to make it a cultural mecca," she adds. |
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After Diwali, the other D
Unrestricted revelry, infinite carousing and uncontrolled binging. Deadly combination. No? Don't know for the social life but certainly your intestine! The hangover post celebrations affects in ways more than we can think of. Post the Divali, the D-days, the D(etox)-word should be your hymn. Contrary to popular perception, one need not take an elaborate break in the Himalayas consisting of endless spas and unearthly diets or rigorous fasting to gain the sanity back. The answer lies in detox diet (a dietary regimen involving a change in consumption habits in order to detoxify the body) is actually the easiest and the healthiest way. It's as quick, cheap and fast as the food you are tempted to. Here's all you need to know. What is the right time to go for it? Says Dr Sonia Gandhi, senior nutrionist, Fortis, "During festivals one's intake of foods is generally wrong and more. So ideally for the next three to four days one should be calorie conscious and for just one immediate next day stay on fluids." What more? She doesn't recommend fasting as the best option. Says Dr Gandhi, "Instead of following the starving principal, one should consume a lot of fibres, honey, oats, garlic and lots of healthy fluids." Detoxification, otherwise, should be an ongoing process. And needs to be followed severely, post party season or when symptoms like sluggishness, feeling tired tend to become chronic. However, Dr. Chanana says, "Ideally you should go in for the process during the onset of springs or when the season shifts from summers to winters." And in case it's not through the technical medical method you want to approach, then at home one can anytime go in for hot water combined with green leaves and the right diet. If not for anything else, it's for the sake of being able to overindulge once again that renewal and recharging the body become indispensable. After all, New Years and Christmas is only a month and a half away! manpriya@tribunemail.com
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Costume Drama
In Madhur Bhandarkar's Fashion, actor Priyanka Chopra will be seen in an unbelievable 137 outfits! Priyanka plays a small-town girl, Meghna Mathur, who goes on to become a supermodel in Mumbai. The dresses support the five subtle but distinct phases her character goes through in the film. "I wear 137 costumes in Fashion, and it was required as my character goes through a huge journey in one-and-a-half years. And we had a lot of montages in the film, a lot of ad commercials and of course fashion shows, which is why the requirement of costumes was so high for my character," Priyanka said. Priyanka is seen flaunting a range of clothes from designer wear, to t-shirts and jeans while portraying a model's normal life. Throwing light on her different looks in the film, she said: "There are five changes that happen to my character in the film. When she comes from Chandigarh, she has a little bit of a small-town kind of styling, then she becomes a model-a little more polished and finally the very stylish and a supermodel look. "When she loses her head, she becomes very arrogant and her make-up becomes darker and a lot more edgy. Then during her downfall, I am devoid of make- up. The resurrection portion is softer because she is scared and broken while trying to regain her self-confidence. We tried all those looks to keep different so that the character's journey looks seamless through the film." The much-awaited Fashion is a take on the Indian fashion industry and also stars Kangana Ranaut, debutante Mugdha Godse, Arbaaz Khan, Arjan Bajwa and many of the who's who of the fashion fraternity. Taking on Meghna's role was not a cakewalk for the beauty queen-turned-actor, as she had to go for method acting for her character. "I added on six kilograms to look like a girl from Punjab before shedding it off as the film progresses. I went through a learning process to make my character look real. I had to study the character to live it and the film is looking good," Priyanka said. However, not many know that Priyanka was initially apprehensive of signing on for the project and kept it on hold for six months. "I said yes to Fashion after six months. I wasn't sure about many things when it came to me. Also, I wasn't pretty sure about myself... whether I'd be able to do justice to the role or not. But Madhur showed immense confidence in me and I finally said yes," she revealed. The actress was thrilled when she started working as she got to catch up with her old friends from the ramp world during the shooting. "I got to meet all my old friends - Nayonika (Chatterjee), Diandra (Soares), Bhawna (Sharma) and Lubna (Adams). I got to hang out with them. It brought back so much because Nayonika was the first one who taught me how to walk the ramp and I've always looked up to her with a lot of respect. "I knew if I was doing this film, she had to be on board. I begged her but she refused to come because she has a young daughter in Delhi and she couldn't come to Mumbai for the entire duration of the film. But I insisted that she be there for every show in the film and she kindly obliged," the actor said. The year so far hasn't proved quite successful for Priyanka as all four of her releases - Love Story 2050, God Tussi Great Ho, Chamku and Drona - turned out to be box office duds. The actor, however, does not shy away from her failures and is optimistic about her career. "Nobody can decide the destiny of a film. My films haven't done well and I haven't shied away from that. I don't think failures really affect careers very much if you are good in the film," she said. Priyanka will be next seen in Dharma Productions' Dostana and is also shooting for films like Kaminay and What's Your Raashee. She also has sequels to Don - The Chase Begins Again and Drona already in her kitty apart from an item number opposite Shah Rukh Khan in Billo Barber.
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Koffee break
"Fashion is the biggest thing that has happened to me till date. It's been a long, hard struggle since I came here in 2001 from Delhi to make it big. It takes a lot of guts and patience to hold yourself that long. I am hoping Fashion should be a turning point in my career," Bajwa said in an interview. Arjan BajwaReleased on Wednesday, Fashion is a dark tale about the style industry and also stars Priyanka Chopra, Kangana Ranaut, debutante Mughda Godse, Arbaaz Khan and many of the who's who of the fashion fraternity. Bajwa forayed in Bollywood with Sandesh Kohli's box office dud Woh Tera Naam Tha (2004) before getting a break in Mani Ratnam's Guru (2007) and a role in Summer of 2007 this year. He however, started his career as a model for commercials and was soon roped in by the south film industry. "I was a little fortunate that initially only after I did a few commercials and advertisements, I got a chance to work in south films. That way I did my first film in 2001 and have done six Telugu films so far and four Hindi films counting Fashion," revealed the actor who is also a black belt in Taekwondo, a southeastern Korean martial art. On being asked how did Madhur Bhandarkar sign him for Fashion, Bajwa shared: "I had known Madhur from before. He had seen my work both in films and advertisements but I was recommended to him by the dialogue writer of Fashion - Niranjan Iyengar. It was a great compliment for me when Madhur cast me in his film without even testing me and that too opposite Priyanka Chopra." Bajwa plays an aspiring model in the film, who is very idealistic. "I play an aspiring fashion model Maanav Bhasin. He works on his own terms and conditions. He is a very strong headed, stubborn and idealistic kind of guy who does not believe in taking short cuts to fame. He takes the hard path and faces a lot of rejection and humiliation initially but ultimately becomes successful," he said. The actor refused to divulge any details about his future projects with just informing that one of the two is a "larger-than-life action film."
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Bollywood superstar Amitabh Bachchan has now started writing his highly popular blog in English and Hindi. The change came after his hospitalisation for abdominal pain. Big B had stayed a week in Mumbai's posh Leelavati Hospital by the Mahim bay to get the recurring pain examined and treated. Convent-educated Bachchan, who is known for speaking chaste Hindi and with proper diction, otherwise is not known for writing in his mother tongue, Hindi, with equal felicity. Whatever major writing he has done so far is all in English. Big B's father, poet Harivansh Rai Bachchan, played with Hindi words all his life and he himself made a career out of Hindi language Bollywood movies, but never in the past has he given a hint of affection towards his mother tongue more than necessary, at least in public. So, what prompted the most creative of the present Bollywood actors to write his immensely popular blog in Hindi after his hospitalisation instead of English in which he till then was writing it? Did he ruminate too much over the Maharashtra Navnirman Sena chief Raj Thackeray's broadside against Jaya Bachchan's impromptu comment, Hum to UP-wale hai, hame Hindi mein hi bolna chhahiye, made during her speech at the music release function of Drona in Mumbai early last month, to make him turn to Hindi with a vengeance? When a reader of his blog made his displeasure known to the actor and urged him to revert to writing it in English, Big B in his characteristic matter-of-fact way wrote in his next blog last Saturday that nobody on earth could stop him from writing or speaking in Hindi. And, he made it sound a tad too provincial, as if in a subdued retort to the MNS' odious provincialism. Anyway, quite unintentionally, perhaps, Big B is now writing his blog both in Hindi and English. Bachchan had to apologise last month after Raj Thackeray threatened to stall the release of The Last Lear in the wake of alleged anti-Marathi comments of Jaya Bachchan.
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Mama mia
"As a child I was very scared of him (Govinda). Whenever he used to visit us, I used to hide in some corner. I still don't know why? Today, he is a guiding force for me," Ragini said. The actress, who plays the role of Ragini alias Ginni, one of the three sisters in Radhaa ki.. is the daughter of Govinda's sister Kamini
Khanna. Despite having such a strong Bollywood backing in the industry, Ragini says she never sought help from her uncle Govinda. Instead, she auditioned for at least 100 odd-shows before landing with one in Radhaa..." "I'll be foolish to say that his presence has not helped me, but I have never gone to him and asked him to get me a role. If that had been the case, I would have been doing several films. But I believe in making my own story. He does tell me what to do and helps me because he is aware of the industry. He is a very intellectual person and has a lot of experience. So he guides me really well," Ragini added.
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Absolutely smashing
A brawnier Aamir Khan unveiled the first look of his much-awaited film Ghajini. The one minute clip shows Aamir in his new six-pack abs, for which he had to work out three to four hours every day for several months. The film, which was scheduled for release on Diwali, will now hit the theatres on Christmas, December 25. "We were planning to release the film on Diwali, but it did not happen because of my injury, so we decided to at least unveil its first look on this day," Aamir told reporters. Aamir suffered a hamstring injury while filming a scene for the film in April. The scene required him to pick up and throw a heavy man against a wall. The talented actor said he is looking forward to the film's release as he has acted in a commercial movie after a long time. "'Ghajini' is important for me as it is an out and out commercial movie which I am doing after a long time." On the absence of director A.R. Murugadoss on the occasion, Aamir said: "The post-production work for the film is going on full swing and our director is extremely busy with it." The film clip also shows leading lady Asin. Aamir said it was quite difficult for him to work on his new looks as he was required to build a perfect body, including six-pack abs. "After I finished Taare Zameen Par, I started to work on my look for the film. It was a tough time when I had to work on my body for nearly three to four hours a day." Jiah Khan, who plays second lead in the film, does not feature in the clip. Ghajini is a Hindi adaptation of the Tamil film made by Murugadoss himself by the same name. The film is said to be inspired by the critically acclaimed film Memento by Christopher Nolan on the theme of the protagonist suffering from anterograde amnesia (short term memory loss) and seeking revenge for his wife's murder. — IANS
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Khayal katha
A graduate from the University of Calcutta with an Honours in Economics, Shantanu is an 'A' grade artiste of AIR and Doordarshan. He was awarded the AIR Gold Medal for winning first prizes in khayal and thumri at the AIR music competition in 1989. He ranked top at the Dover Lane Music Conference's competition, the West Bengal State Music Academy's competition and that of the Bharatiya Sanskriti Samsad in 1986, 1987, 1988 and 1996, respectively, for khayal and thumri. Shantanu has been performing since many years now in France, Germany, USA, UK, Switzerland, Kuwait and Bangladesh for concerts, recordings and lecture-demonstration sessions. On the invitation of the Society for Social Health, Haryana the maestro had a musical interaction with the inmates of Ashiana, a home for orphans and destitutes in Panchkula on Wednesday. He shared his views on music after his interactive session. "Music is primarily a performing art. It reflects the magnificence of our creative spirit, which is unique and universal in appeal. But Indian music being grammar-oriented with an inherent discipline and harmony between human feeling and will is an enviable treasure of our Indian culture, " maintains Shantanu. He believes that the raga-music has the innate power of taking the listeners to the higher realms of psychic consciousness. He tries to focus on this aspect in his performance and interactions too, which was perceptible here. Shantanu feels that the youngsters are caught between the instant joys of western music, its impact and the sustained melodic appeal of Indian music. At this juncture they need to be administered a dose of soulful classical compositions that are easy for their conceptual grasp. For grooming them young, child prodigies must be provided 'smaller' Tanpura so that they imbibe its drone. Having taken part in jugalbandis at concerts abroad, Shantanu finds a powerful competition in none other than his life partner Durba Bhattacharjee while their six-year daughter Moitra is a formidable challenge to both. The future of Indian classical music is glorious, he feels, if the excitement of 1400 disciples of his guru Ajay Chakrbarty's institute " 'Shruti Nandan' is anything to go by.
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If you are one of the brigade of Bollywood fans, there is something for you to treasure. People for Animals, Chandigarh, has come up with the latest fund raiser - an exhibition and sale of Bollywood (classic) film posters 'Divas Unveiled'. Posters of old classic films are now becoming an art collector's item and gaining a lot of popularity in the international market. The exhibition will include posters of films that were released from the 1940s to 2007. These posters are the first edition prints and include the films of Raj Kapoor such as Aah, Barsaat, Aan, Boot Polish, Sangam and Shri 420. Some of the other films are Mother India, Mugal- e azam, Anarkali, Aar Paar, Kati Patang, Khandaan, Do Ankhen Barah Haath and Johnny Mera Naam. The entire series of Amitabh Bachhan films and other popular films will also be exhibited and offered for sale. The posters of latest hit films like Don (new), Om Shanti Om, Mangal Pandey, Chak de India are also being exhibited. The exhibition will be inaugurated by Ram Niwas, Home Secretary, Chandigarh Administration on Friday. The sale of the posters will be held at the Government Arts Gallery, sector 10, Chandigarh from October 31 to November 3 from 10 am to 6.00 pm.— TNS
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Pet THEORY So here you come all excited and enthusiastic thinking about the big surprise. A new puppy in the family. Now you have a little and defenseless living being in your hands that must be valued and taken care of with special and extra attention. Remember that your new puppy is not a toy for the small kids and never ever allow them to play with him in a rough manner. This little fellow has just been taken from his mother, brothers and sisters, being forced to now face a strange, unknown and new environment, feeling intimidated by so much noise and words that do not mean anything to him. Always remember that everything around the puppy is new and strange and he probably feels confused and frightened. So, here are some of the things your puppy will need. Dog crate One of the most important items you will purchase for your new puppy is his crate. These can be found in many styles and sizes. If you are bringing home a large breed dog, you will either want to buy a crate that is adjustable or buy several crates in different sizes to accommodate your growing puppy. This is where he will sleep, stay, and get away from all the household hubbub. This can also be his 'safe' place, especially if you have children. This will become your puppy's own little 'den'. When you purchase your puppy's crate, you should be sure that it is the right size. Your puppy should be able to stand comfortably, turn around, and lie without being cramped. It should not be very large so that your puppy has enough room to relieve himself at one end while having room to sleep at the other, you do not want your puppy to get in the habit of relieving himself in his crate. Puppy food The very basic of supplies that you will need is food. This should be obvious, but you would be surprised at how often this is overlooked. You will need to check with the breeder to find out what food your puppy is already eating. You will need a supply of this type of food. If you are planning to change to a different brand, you will need to gradually change it over the course of about seven to ten days. Just add a little of the new brand to the old brand, adding a little more each day, until your puppy is eating just the new brand. Food and water bowls Of course, to go along with the food, you will need food and water bowls. These need to be made from easy to clean material. They also need to be heavy enough so that they will not tipp over. Since some breeds chew more than others, you may want to avoid plastic altogether, as these can splinter and cause problems. A set of stainless steal bowls will take care of this problem and they are easy to clean. Purchase separate bowls for food and water. You may want to buy smaller bowls at first, and upgrade to larger ones as your puppy grows. This will keep him from getting buried under a heaping pile of dog food or from falling in his water bowl every time he drinks. Toys Stock up on chew toys. The more chew toys your puppy has, the less likely it will chew on your valuable possessions. Chewing is a natural instinct for dogs, and especially young puppies. Praise your puppy when he chews on toys that are his and he will soon learn what is fair game and what is off limits. Timepiece Since puppies may miss the feeling of a beating heart next to them when they sleep, you can purchase 'beating heart' plush toys or you can place a timepiece under the bedding of your puppy that mimic the sound of a canine mother's heartbeat. Rules and regulations Establish rules to live by. Your puppy will understand the rules of the household much quicker if they are consistent from the start. Decide on the rules by which your puppy must abide before bringing his home. Instilling structure immediately will prevent your puppy from developing bad habits. A final thought: As you play with your puppy, ask yourself, "What kind of behavior patterns am I creating? Will they be acceptable as my puppy matures?" The best time to stop bad habits is before they start.
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Favourable mention
Chimpanzees very closely observe who all are grooming them, and ultimately return favours to them while freezing out others, according to a new study. Cristina Gomes, a behavioural ecologist at the Max Planck Institute for Evolutionary Anthropology in Leipzig, Germany, came up with this finding after observing wild chimpanzees living in Tai National Park in Cote D'Ivoire for about 3000 hours. She says that grooming, in a way, works like currency in chimpanzees. "If you don't have a set price, then you're susceptible to being cheated and cooperation would probably break down," New Scientist magazine quoted her as saying. She revealed that among chimps, grooming seemed to be a hygienic practice to pluck parasites off fur, as well as a social glue between related and unrelated apes. For her study, Gomes spent several years recording the daily behaviour of 44 chimps. Each day, she tracked an individual chimpanzee, recording whom it groomed, who groomed it, and the length of each session on a handheld computer. The researcher finally accrued 87 hours of grooming. While the animals were found to forgo a "you scratch my back, I'll scratch yours approach" on a day-to-day basis and many debts remained unsettled, the researchers did observe that a tit-for-tat payback system emerged about a week later.—ANI
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Talking times
Remember an old adage: "I just need to get it off my chest." Nowhere it's more important than in healthy relationships that thrive when the communication is flowing. Psychologists worldwide believe that sharing be it highs or lows, triumphs or tears cements the bond between partners. A recent study in the University of Fribourg in Switzerland says telling the partner about one's day enables to better regulate one's own emotions, which results in positive psychological health effects. It promotes feelings of intimacy, which boosts relationship fulfillment.
The earlier adage 'Men are from Mars and Women from Venus' is a thing of past. Some of the generalisations made in this very popular book of 1990s by John Gray such as during stress 'men retreat in caves' have given way to new habits. In today's scenario when men and women are playing somewhat similar roles, there are changes in their communication patterns as well. We talk to some city couples to know how they clear the air between them and ensure a fulfilling relationship. Kanwaljit Singh and his wife Aman of sector 36 believe in the dictum of 'sharing and caring'. "I discuss whatever happens during the day with my wife. It's reciprocal too. She also makes sure to talk about her day with me. It cements our bond," says Kanwaljit. His wife, Aman reaffirms: "We both share the daily happenings. It's not always I understand everything about his business but being intuitive I can make out what he's going through and try to support him in my own little ways. I guess that makes us be best friends forever." We talk to Aditi and Sumit Arora who handle their business together: "I am in wedding cards and sweet boxes business while my husband has started a new call center. Managing both the businesses together, for good or bad, we end up discussing all that happens during the day. To look at it positively I am part of his everyday plan, highs as well as lows. On the flip side, we are bringing office home." And how about him? "While he shares all about the business, and is all support when I need him, on a personal front he is shy and does not discuss much." We talk to Sumit Arora: "By the end of the day I talk to Aditi all that I can recall. I don't do it to derive any benefits, I believe in talking it out." We catch on another couple Vivek and Seema Gupta. Seema, who works in insurance sector like most women believes in sharing. "I blurt out all whether he listens or not. It makes me feel lighter. I guess it would be even better if Vivek shares more," she feels. Never mind lady, the study shows it's all in your favour. However, there are others who do not believe in sharing stuff. "See, I think for a healthy relationship prime requisite is loyalty to partner. Sharing more or less does not matter. I do share with my wife but as much as she can relate to. I feel it's unnecessary to burden her with who said what and when she does not even know them," says Parvin Kumar, a city based IT professional. We take expert opinion. "Its an age old belief," says a city based sociologist Rajesh Gill, "that talking loud in an empty room even if no one is listening is helpful. Suppressing emotion is no good. Just talking aloud takes the burden off your mind." No wonder we feel so much better after sharing with our friends. Yet, she says it's not that easy to generalise. Communication is not only verbal but is multifarious. It depends, at times, even if you are shouting at the top of your voice the message fails to get conveyed to the partner. In some other cases even the silence communicates. So overall, it's quality of communication that matters. One word of caution- today, we are very much used to selective sharing. No more do we just talk about anything under the sun. Earlier we would talk to even strangers but that's thing of the past. Now we share even selectively with people as close as our spouse. That's a warning sign. The crux of the matter is that it's the process of telling someone about your daily events, not the response, that matters. So you may want to share more with your partner - if not for their gain, then for your own. mona@tribunemail.com
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Life's mast in PG
How do you expect the scene to be when twenty girls are asked to stay together under the same roof? Heated arguments, some bitching, at times a catfight but more than anything else, oodles of fun that make these hiccups take a backseat. We aren't talking about the nagging hostel life, where you are instructed by the warden to put a finger on the lips while in mess or wait for weeks together for those scarce day or night outs. It's instead about life that is unending enjoyment, as the girls staying in paying guest accommodation define it - mast. And almost ditto is the scene when it comes to boys living as PGs. Banisha Katoch, an engineering student, has now been staying as PG from the past two years and is making the most of her college life. Hailing from Solan, she shares with us her experiences; "I was an introvert before shifting to PG. My stay here has changed my nature. I easily make friends now and feel confident while expressing myself." Chirpy Banisha feels that PG life has taught her many lessons that has transformed her life for good, "Unlike hostels, you enjoy freedom here which, allows you to try out certain weird things but then after a while freedom infuses in you a sense of responsibility." Beside all these little bickerings, staying with friends can be a big bash too, something which these young PG mates love to indulge in. "We are now a family and love to party till late night. Loud music and snacks are the only requirement to our overnight party," avers Banisha. Things are tough for students who have different subjects from their roommates. Radhika Sharma, a second year BCA student is now a good friend with her two roomies who are art students. "My subjects are tough, I had to devote more time to my studies where as my roommates had all the time to enjoy. After some time, they realised the fact and cooperate in all possible ways while I study." Putting up in a PG helps these students reining their life. Deepak Goyal, a final year student opines that had he not shifted from a hostel to a PG, he would not have realised how invariably others were controlling his life. "I am in complete control of my life now". He firmly believes, "When you are not exposed to things that are termed wrong, it's natural to feel tempted to try out those. Restrictions do more harm than any good." For those youngsters who are working and staying as PGs, roommates provide a worthwhile company. Sharing a room with two other boys wasn't easy but gradually he began to like being with the newfound family. "From a whole room to myself in my house to living in a much smaller room with three roomies, adjustment was certainly a big task. Chatting, gossiping and sharing problems helped us in it," avers Deepak. And after slogging at the work place, begins the gheris with PG friends at night that renders meaning to otherwise a dull life. ashima@tribunemail.com
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Write to renee
My steady boyfriend of 5 years is going to Australia for his further studies. We have been very close and it has always been accepted that we will be getting married sooner or later. But now with his new decision to a two-year degree in Australia, I am beginning to wonder if our relationship will survive this parting. I feel extremely insecure as most of my friends have been pestering me to dissuade him from going. I feel this would be unfair. What should I do? I care very much about him and want to see him happy.
Alisha Mehta,
Chandigarh I can well understand your predicament. We all want our loved ones to progress and yet we all feel threatened and insecure when we are not with them. It is only natural to feel like that. I do not think you should dissuade him from going for further studies. After all if someone wants to stray in a relationship they can even do it living here in India. They do not need to go across the continent to do it. If he loves you genuinely he will definitely just focus his studies and work and come back to you. Have faith in yourself and in your relationship with him. Most important of all have faith in God. If you are meant to be together, nothing in the world will keep him away from you. I have a strange problem by husband is jealous of my baby daughter and keeps throwing huge tantrums. He has started behaving very strangely since she is born, he insists that I ignore him and give all my attention to the kid. There are days when he even goes to sleep in the guestroom to teach me a lesson. I find this extremely offensive and find his attitude extremely strange and difficult to cope with. I wish he would understand that a five-month-old baby is extremely demanding in terms of time and naturally I have to look after her needs. It is not that I love him any less, it's just that I cannot give him the same time and attention as before. How should I cope with this situation? Pamela Singh,
Chandigarh It is clear that your husband is feeling jealous. He probably feels cheated in the situation as far as his time with you is concerned. He must be very much in love with you and feeling neglected. A lot of men go through this kind of syndrome. You have to remember that every man likes his time with his wife to be his alone, and sharing it with anybody even if it his own child makes him feel a little insecure. The ball is in your court here. You have to make him realise that the child in no way threatens your affection for him. He has his own place in your life just as your daughter has her own. Neither can be in each other's place as you love them both in your own way. He has to just understand and mature to the idea and learn to live as a family man. Groom him to it. I am a 21 years old guy. I am medium built and rather smart looking. But despite this I have many problems. One of which is, my life regarding the opposite sex is not going fine. My previous girlfriend left me because of another guy and now I am in tension. I really love her a lot and although I have told her my feelings many times she does not show much interest in me. I am suffering a lot, please tell me what should I do now. Raghav,
Chandigarh The world is full of stressed out people now why do you want to join the gang. You possibly cannot allow yourself to have great tension at your age over an issue like this. The world is full of greater things that need to the handled. You might be a very smart looking guy but remember that's not all that a woman is looking for. Looks are a very small part of your personality. It is a complete package that girls are looking for these days. It seems you don't have much to offer on the loving front. She is probably looking on understanding that this other guy may have offered. Examine yourself for what you lack in. Show her some understanding and ask her point of view may be you find the answer there. In the meantime work on yourself - improve yourself within. As you approach life from a new and meaningful perspective you will definitely find a meaningful relationship - if not with this one then with whom so ever is meant for you . |
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