Ludhiana, April 1
The fear of being alone, sleep disturbances, memory disorders, insecurity, physical disabilities etc force majority of old age people in the city to resort to psychiatrists. Most of these elderly people abandoned by their loved ones, feel being cheated. Suffering from agony and pain at the dawn of their lives, senior citizens with no other choice in hands, rely on anti-depressant drugs for the rest of their life.
Dr Rajeev Gupta, a city-based psychiatrist, said that he received about 4-5 such patients a day, who were either accompanied by their neighbours or distant relatives. The sons or daughters of these senior citizens were married and staying away from them. “They feel insecure, neglected and hurt in their old age. Their sons have either migrated or are not willing to take their responsibility. Suffering from problems like depression, aggression and mood fluctuations, they need extra care, love and affection of those who are emotionally attached to them”, said Dr Gupta.
Dr Gupta said that the ‘migration trend’ was responsible for the unfortunate condition of these elderly people. “The trend is to have small and nuclear families. The daughters of old age people are married and sons are staying away. Even if they are financially sound, they feel emotionally insecure. For example, they find it very difficult to approach a doctor to get medicine for a simple
problem. This is the depending age and the loved ones should be around to look after them”, stressed Dr Gupta.
Dr (Ms) Ravinder Kala, a counsellor at ‘Roshni’, an NGO working for old age people said that it was very difficult for elderly people, to accept this social change. “Indian culture is entirely different from the western counterparts. The parents take care of every need of their children here, where as in western countries, as soon as the child reaches the age of 15, he/she is thrown out of the house to be economically independent. Here, children are pampered. Parents invest everything on their children, but when the same children abandon them, they feel hurt and cheated”, said Dr Kala.
Dr Kala said that there was definitely an increase in the number of such patients. They feel physically week, emotionally disturbed, lonely and unwanted. “They feel helpless to tackle all their problems independently. Counselling of such individuals is must”, she said.
Another devoted volunteer who works for the welfare of old age people, Mr Kapoor said, “In western countries, old age people were being looked after by the government. They go on a holiday, enjoy life. Their children visit them on their birthdays. But here, old age homes means hell to the senior citizens. They want to stay with their loved ones. The children should understand and respect the feelings of the elderly and keep in mind that they are not left alone”.