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It's good to be bad, sometimes
There are people in this world whose sole aim is to make other people's lives miserable just to cover up their own complexes. They'll go to any extent, from passing snide remarks to eyeing you snobbishly. Rather than get irritated at their ways, it is best to give such "baddies" a taste of their own medicine. An acquaintance of mine
had the annoying habit of putting down other people at every conceivable
excuse. Although everyone was fed up of her, no one snubbed her for fear
of offending her. One day, she had the cheek to tell me I had a loud
style of dressing. I cut her to size by simply laughing it off and
saying, "I knew someone was going to point out my fuschia bag, but
I never though it would come from someone in orange sneakers." That
was enough to put her in her place. |
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Being lazy is one thing but just wanting some time out is fine. Sometimes it is better to put off until tomorrow what needs to be done today, for you may not have to do it at all. It is okay to take a day off from office just to freak out with friends (as long as your boss thinks it's the flu). It helps to be a bit of a "me" person. Being taken for granted is a terrible feeling. It pays to enhance your value by valuing yourself first. Only if you're at peace with yourself and happy can you keep those around you happy. For that, believe in yourself and what you do. The meek may inherit the world but it is definitely being ruled by smart people who don't mind elbowing their way past those who are not so sure of themselves. It is advisable (and easier) to be meek only after you reach your destination. A friend of mine has mastered the art of being as docile as a cow and as aggressive as a tiger, to suit the situation. She gets her job done either way. Remember the story of a father and son and their donkey? The two had a tough time trying to please people. No matter whether the man, his son or both rode the donkey, people kept passing snide remarks. Even when they disembarked from the animal, they were jeered at. If it is so hard to please everyone, is it really worth trying so hard? If we'd all try to be a bit self-centered and make ourselves happy first, the world would then seem a rosier place. It is good to be concerned about the people you care for, but at the same time, a little bit of neglect can be good for all relationships. When you find a new hobby to keep you busy, you are no longer the sticky spouse, the screaming parent and the demanding sibling. And your loved ones will all love you more for it. Put your best foot forward, step on someone's toes if you have to, just be careful not to topple them over. After all, being bad may not be as bad as it sounds. |
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"GOOD"
and "bad" were the first few pairs of opposites I learnt at
school along with 'ugly-beautiful' and 'up-down.' At that time I thought
of them as absolutes but now I realise that these are relative terms.
Just as 'beautiful' turns 'ugly' in front of a prettier thing and 'up'
seems 'down' from a higher point, 'good' and 'bad' are also comparative
terms. It is all a matter of perspective.