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But the book is not merely
addressed to fellow sufferers. It is addressed to all of us, for
each one of us has, surely, some friend or relative who has been
diagnosed with the disease. And in any case, given the
statistics, each one of us could become a patient at any time.
The book, without becoming a statistical manual, is informative
about the nature and attitude, modes of treatment, responses to
treatment and the actual fight against a disease with a high
mortality rate. But a rate not as high as we sometimes suppose.
More and more people, the author tells us, are surviving cancer.
Importantly, it brings a distinct humanism to the idea of being
a cancer patient. Accepting that one has cancer, the author
says, is the most important step in battling the disease.
"Try thinking of cancer as an unwelcome guest. You might
wish it would go away soon, but don’t slam the door in its
face. It doesn’t work."
Anup accepted the
presence of this unwelcome guest, but also noted the qualitative
difference it made. "The air in the house improved
considerably." He had always been a heavy smoker (consuming
close to 500,000 cigarettes as an adult). Cancer made him quit.
Being a patient brought him closer to his family members.
"I began to look at life with a new perspective. My
identity was no longer in my suit, my tie, and my polished
shoes. I was free. It was a new life. It was different."
The battle plan,
itself a combination of folk wisdom and pop psychology, its
premises similar to the tips you find in self-help books, was
nevertheless effective insofar as it gave the author a centre
around which he could organise his confrontation with death. Who
can argue with such life affirming optimism at such a time? If
you are the disease, you are also the cure. The only resource a
cancer patient has is his own, but he must harness both family
and friends in the battle. The action plan, worthy of Tsun Zu,
occupies the central chapters of the book. "Being an active
participant in your health helps you understand your condition
better. It builds on your internal resources to fight the
disease. It helps you increase your belief in yourself. Belief
that you can and will eventually win."
Meditation, yoga,
an improved diet and Buddhist chanting were some of the means
that the author used to steady himself during treatment. After
trying several alternatives, he opts for standard allopathic
medicine, but notes, "It is important to conduct a check on
hospital costs and charges. Cancer is a rich man’s disease…Over
a period of only six months, my treatment cost me approximately
12 lakhs." He tells his story without an ounce of
self-pity, dispelling various received opinions. Contrary to
popular perceptions (and fears), cancer is not, he assures us,
as painful as sometimes made out to be, rather it is the despair
and isolation that undermine the defenses of most and it is
really oneself one must conquer.
Like a religious
experience, the affliction with cancer transformed the author’s
existence. He directed this transformation to make his life more
meaningful than it had been. "Cancer has altered the way I
look, react and feel to everything in my environment. I have
been born again at the age of 50."
The book contains
short and important chapters, which include advice to family and
friends. Appendices on cancer treatment, side effects as well as
a list of cancer societies and how they can help are vital
components of this book.
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