Life at forty
By
Suneeta Chahar
KNOWING yourself at the age of 40
is a beautiful experience. Till now, one had devoted
ones life to the upbringing and education of the
children. By the time a woman reaches this age her
children are generally in college. They do not have to be
spoonfed. At this stage, the mother has ample time for
herself.
It is rightly said that
life begins at 40 because by this time, after years of
experience, ones ideas are set. Whatever one goes
through in life, good or bad, becomes a part of
ones personality. One can never separate it from
the self. One is mature enough, cannot be bullied and
knows what one wants from life. And most of the time has
the confidence to do a lot of things.
Life is so beautiful.
The more one thinks about it the better it seems. One has
so much to look forward to. One can do many things, for
example, catch up with reading, listen to music or learn
it, join social work or a ladies club, learn some
handicraft or set up a small scale business. In short,
there is a lot of scope.
For a nature lover, life
can be serene and fulfilling. It is lovely to sit in the
verandah of the house in the mornings and take in the
greenery. Listening to different sounds of nature like
chirping of birds and the rustle of leaves is fascinating
one is filled with life by merely looking at the yellow,
red, mauve, pink and burnt peach of flowers in bloom.
The process of learning
never ends in life. If one stopped learning, the mind
would start stagnating resulting in mental death to a
certain extent. As a kid one learns from ones
parents, siblings and peer group but at this time one
learns so much from the nature. For example, one is
spell-bound while watching birds nurse their young ones.
The mother does everything with patience and love.
From the sounds of
nature emerges a kind of rhythm which is pleasing to the
ears. If you have the time, sit quietly and listen,
its just like an orchestra, the music of which is
composed by Mother Nature herself. Just like nature,
there is a rhythm of life too which should not be
disturbed. From infancy to old age, life is so hectic
that one loses touch with nature. First, it is school;
then college, marriage and children. One never has the
time to pause ever forever a moment. All of a sudden, one
realises that so much life has already passed, though
there are no regrets. Now one wants to take in as much of
nature as possible and feel the presence of the creator.
The cycle of life goes
on from one generation to the next crossing various
stages from infancy to old age. Every generation
experiences similar things but for each one there is a
certain charm in it. It is, therefore, sad to see the
rhythm being disturbed by intrigues, manipulations,
jealousy and ego hassle. Why do people not realise their
fool hardiness and make this life worth living instead of
adding stress to it? Life is so simple and beautiful, why
are we bent upon making it complicated, unhappy and ugly?
At this age of maturity one should realise this.
J. Krishnamurthy once
wrote about love. He wrote, "We say I love him/her.
In fact, when we really love, when our heart is full of
love its not one person or a thing that one loves
but he/she loves the whole universe because then there is
no place for hatred in your heart." This is so very
true. But to realise this we need to think and act.
To know yourself, one
has to go by instincts and shed inhibitions in life.
Those who do so are often misunderstood because our
society is not used to them. It has set certain norms of
behaviour for people and anyone choosing ones own
path is looked at with suspicion. The path is full of
agony but still it is worth it because it takes you
nearer to your true goal in life.
Everyone has to find
ones own path but most of us do not realise the
true meaning and aim of our life. We get tempted by so
many things in life. This reminds us to what Henry
Grattan said about the various stages of life, "At
twenty years of age, the will reigns, at thirty, the wit
and at forty the Judgement". The judgement,
therefore, is to know what life is all about and to
follow the right path to real happiness and bliss.
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