CHANDIGARH INDEX

 





Tugging at our heartstrings
Despite the onslaught of soap operas, animation movies and electronic toys, the puppets have refused to climb back into their boxes and be forgotten. They are rather popping out, working ‘hand in glove’ with social workers for the social betterment, reports Anandita Gupta

I
t can very well flaunt having come from a flatteringly long folk tradition. Some art critics, though, may dismiss ‘it’ as a lifeless bunch of crap. For, ‘it’ doesn’t have any life and blood in it. No brain to masterfully manipulate things its own way, no heart to pump tempting desires into it and no legs to mercilessly kick away some helpless creature.


CREATING MAGIC: 25 youngsters crafting puppets with their own hands at a puppetry-workshop held at Navodaya Vidyalaya, Chandigarh. — Photo by Vinay Malik
youngsters crafting puppets with their own hands at a puppetry-workshop held at Navodaya Vidyalaya, Chandigarh

Message from New York
Rabia Tewari
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t is Christmas time again in New York City! The entire city is transformed into a winter wonderland with endless Christmas sights to enjoy. The forever-luminous Manhattan is completely decorated with twinkling lights and carol singing is in the air. The season of joy has arrived in all its splendor.  Store windows are elaborately decorated. Especially the windows of Saks Fifth Avenue, Barney’s, Lord & Taylor and Macy’s that create splendid festive scenes. Streets are filled with the hustle and bustle of shoppers busy buying perfect gifts for family and friends.


MISTLETOE & WINE: A Christmas party in progress.
A Christmas party in progress

Oil that burns money
Anandita Gupta
S
nugly sporting that ‘expensive’, ‘flavorful’ and ‘extra virgin tag’, it sits smartly on the city’s grocery store shelves. Having left behind that desi ‘Made in Thane’ label with élan, it now dons a fancy, firangi avatar. And as buyers frequenting these super-markets ala departmental stores pick up their grocery, ‘it’ seldom fails to fascinate them. No doubt, its popularity quotient remains feverishly high. Wonder what’s this precious allotment of fat grams that we’re delightfully bingeing on? It’s the oh-so-perfect olive oil!


OLIVE BRIGADE: A home maker happily flaunts her favourite brand of olive oil at Bhatia Supermarket. — Photo by Vinay Malik
 A home maker happily flaunts her favourite brand of olive oil at Bhatia Supermarket


Forces at war - history re-enacted

Charge! As many as 80 artists enact the scene of the war between the armies of Ahmed Shah Abdali and Shah Nawaz
Charge! As many as 80 artists enact the scene of the war between the armies of Ahmed Shah Abdali and Shah Nawaz for the serial ‘Lord of the five rivers — Maharaja Ranjit Singh’ at Karora village. The scene was directed by Jabbar Khan. — Photo by Vinay Malik

Umeed Se Dugna
Ruchika M. Khanna
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ivek Chauhan, a resident of Sector 37, had never imagined that by getting a lucky draw coupon for car service from Berkeley Automobiles, would help him win a new Maruti 800. He had won the car in the ‘Umeed Se Dugna’ lucky draw by the Panchkula-based Maruti dealer, while S. Jha of Manimajra Housing Complex, Chandigarh, who won a Maruti Alto.

SNAPSHOT 
This artisan leaves after having prepared quilts for the season ahead
IN ALL READINESS: This artisan leaves after having prepared quilts for the season ahead. — Photo by Vinay Malik

Bollywood’s fight against ‘Angrez’
Parbina Rashid

T
here is something about Chandigarh. Or how do you explain this magnetic pull it has lately on Bollywood folks. Look around and there are film units everywhere, tapping the farmhouses, country clubs, resorts and other landmarks of the city.

Film & FASHION 
Big bids don’t impress Carmen
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he fears of sleeping with a stranger have finally been alleviated for actress Carmen Electra, as the man, whose offer was one of the highest in an online bidding for a date with the her, has been disqualified. The former Baywatch star, who is married to rocker Dave Navarro, recently offered her fans to buy the chance to take her out, on the internet auction site eBay.com, but she now regrets being so crazy, as the huge amounts of cash that were bid for a date with her, left her highly concerned.






 

 

 


Tugging at our heartstrings
Despite the onslaught of soap operas, animation movies and electronic toys, the puppets have refused to climb back into their boxes and be forgotten. They are rather popping out, working ‘hand in glove’ with social workers for the social betterment, reports Anandita Gupta

A lively puppet that’s a delightful pawn in the hands…oops fingers
A lively puppet that’s a delightful pawn in the hands…oops fingers.

It can very well flaunt having come from a flatteringly long folk tradition. Some art critics, though, may dismiss ‘it’ as a lifeless bunch of crap. For, ‘it’ doesn’t have any life and blood in it. No brain to masterfully manipulate things its own way, no heart to pump tempting desires into it and no legs to mercilessly kick away some helpless creature.

Still, ‘it’ amuses and enthralls, unveils political agendas in the curtain of comedy, charms children aged three to thirteen alike and delights us with education disguised as entertainment.

‘It’ comes as a lovable toy with strings to be tugged. But more than that, ‘it’ never fails to tug at our heartstrings. Forever colourful, forever huggable and forever a preacher with a purpose, it’s none other than the adorable puppet!

Perennially popular

Puppets can entertain, inform, persuade and appeal. Opines Poonam Sharma, Principal, Ryan International School, “We’ve always used different art forms to convey some social message. But this time we experimented with puppets. We got human-sized puppets made and enacted a play with them as characters. The play was about the girl child’s importance and worked very well with both kids and adults.”

Adds Hazra of Navodaya Vidyalaya, “The puppet show held at our school on December 20 was a big hit. It had puppets Swali Ram, Golu and Bhondu as characters. In the play, they are intrigued by the variety of sounds in nature. Understanding of the science of sounds comes through a character called Kalu Jadugar which is a puppet too.

But what makes these stringed ‘n’ stuffed toys so appealing? Opines Subhasis Neogi, a Bengali puppeteer, “Irrespective of their size, materials used to make them, or however cheaply they’ve been made, puppets come to life as characters. Laughs Sudeep Gupta, a puppeteer from Calcutta , “Puppets have no existence outside of their characters. They come minus the baggage that accompanies a human actor and hence, audiences can easily identify with the character they are posing.”

Says Chander Mohan Sharma, Principal, Navodaya Vidyalaya, “Puppets can perform at any setting and any budget.” Adds Poonam Sharma, “The charming world of these lively puppets draws us in, and once we’ve lost ourselves to their spell, we accept the message they convey without even realizing that we are learning.”

Puppet troupes

Puppetry is a very powerful medium, not just in entertainment but also in therapy, rehabilitation and education. Prooving this is a city based puppet group called Putul Nacher Ashor .This eight-member group started when Subhasis Neogi attended a 15-day workshop by a Swedish puppeteer running the Ishara puppet troupe.

Explains Neogi, “It all started with a workshop of famous puppeteer Dadi Padamsee few years back. The hands on experience of making rod puppets left such a deep impression on my mind that I learnt puppet-making and fiddled with puppets till I decided to use this art form for education of children.”

Workshops

So, eight people, teachers, students, office-goers— people from all walks of life who wished to explore puppetry’s role in education came together and formed a troupe in 2005. The group that’s holding workshops and puppet shows in government schools, believes in evolving our own scripts on contemporary topics. These topics are brought out through brainstorming and friendly discussions, children are asked to pen scripts on these topics and later these are enacted through the puppets that the children make with waste materials.

“Our first show was put up in Banga Bhawan, Sector 35, which involved the message of banning the polythene bags. Our next project was with Navodaya Vidyala, where we did a three-week-workshop with children of 12 to 17 years and concluded with a play on understanding the science of sounds,” informs Anupama, another troupe member.

No doubt, despite the urbanisation and modernisation that has brought the onslaught of soap operas, animation movies and electronic toys, the puppets have refused to climb back into their boxes and be forgotten. Or so it seems, looking at the trend of puppetry as a medium of education catching up in the schools. With the help of talented and creative puppeteers, puppets are working ‘hand in glove’ with social workers for the betterment of our community. These cuddly creatures that come with strings attached are finally pulling up our strings too, awakening us out of our slumber to greater realities!

Message from New York
Rabia Tewari

It is Christmas time again in New York City! The entire city is transformed into a winter wonderland with endless Christmas sights to enjoy. The forever-luminous Manhattan is completely decorated with twinkling lights and carol singing is in the air. The season of joy has arrived in all its splendor. Store windows are elaborately decorated. Especially the windows of Saks Fifth Avenue, Barney’s, Lord & Taylor and Macy’s that create splendid festive scenes. Streets are filled with the hustle and bustle of shoppers busy buying perfect gifts for family and friends. The giant Christmas tree at Rockefeller Center is lighted at the start of December, an annual tradition since 1933. This year’s tree is 74 feet high and 42 feet wide. It looks dazzling covered with thirty thousand lights stretched out on five miles of wire and a gleaming huge Swarovski crystal star on top.

Indians living in New York also celebrate Christmas with much enthusiasm. Like everyone else, they too travel in and out of New York to be with their families to celebrate the merry spirit of the season. Elaborate preparations are made for the holidays, meals planned, homes decorated, Christmas cards mailed, gifts bought and then wrapped. Those who do not have families or relatives here are invited over by friends because Christmas is the time to be with those you love.

 Christmas hysteria begins right after Thanksgiving in the last week of November. That is when all stores, restaurants and public buildings start putting up their Christmas decorations. Along with shopping for gifts, the hunt for the perfect Christmas tree also begins. Choosing a Christmas tree at a tree farm is a great family outing. Children love running through the trees and picking the most beautiful one. Those who cannot go to the farms buy their tree from the many vendors selling them all over the city. 

Many Indians host Christmas parties and everyone dresses up in the colors of the season. The air is filled with the sweet fragrance of cinnamon, gingerbread, cakes, chocolates and all other sinful delicacies. Santa Claus makes a special appearance with gifts for everyone. Endless pictures are taken and favorite carols are sung.

Charity is also an essential part of this holiday, to bring joy to the less fortunate. Many people donate toys to the local shelter or orphanage. Others deliver holiday meals to the local food bank for the homeless. Some people, like me, work as volunteers with charity groups that organise fun events at schools for children from financially challenged homes. It’s extremely fulfilling to see the joy and smiles on the faces of those kids as they play games, do crafts and take pictures with Santa. 

The magic of Christmas casts its spell on everyone, irrespective of their origin. It’s the season of connecting with family and friends; of giving presents and being present; of experiencing every moment and letting your heart be light. Such emotions are not specific to any particular culture, they are universal.

Oil that burns money
Anandita Gupta

Snugly sporting that ‘expensive’, ‘flavorful’ and ‘extra virgin tag’, it sits smartly on the city’s grocery store shelves. Having left behind that desi ‘Made in Thane’ label with élan, it now dons a fancy, firangi avatar. And as buyers frequenting these super-markets ala departmental stores pick up their grocery, ‘it’ seldom fails to fascinate them. No doubt, its popularity quotient remains feverishly high. Wonder what’s this precious allotment of fat grams that we’re delightfully bingeing on? It’s the oh-so-perfect olive oil!

Toss it in salad dressings, in marinades, or add it to sauces. Sprinkle it over slices of crusty bread or onto open-face sandwiches. Pour it on a baked potato or drizzle it into mashed potatoes instead of butter. Brush it onto fish or meat before serving! Olive oil tastes great on cooked vegetables, brings out the true flavors of food and retains all of its nutritional benefits. As a last minute addition to cooked dishes just before serving, it acts as a flavor vehicle, drawing out and enhancing tastes and aromas and furnishing the smooth and creamy “mouth feel.” No wonder, the city denizens are going gaga over it.

Opines Vineet Maheshwar of G.P Super Market, sector 10, Panchkula, “Olive oil today is coming in fancy packings and multiple brands like the Spanish Fragata and Italian Olitalia, besides the Indian Sasso, Figaro and Bertolli.People are very brand conscoius and prefer the spanish and Italian brands.”Adds the sales boy at Bhatia Super Market, Sector 35, “ Besides brands, there are many categories of Olive oil available today. Like we have Virgin, Pommace and Extra Virgin.”

Says homemaker Kumkum Kharbanda of sector 15, “Think garlic, tomatoes, basil or onions, for instance, and a full-flavored fruity olive oil fits right in.Olive oil works quite well for uncooked salad dressings, marinades, sauces, dips and spreads. Knowing that consuming Olive oil reduces total blood cholesterol, I do a part of cooking in it though it’s expensive. Adds another cooking freak Arpita Sharma, “ Olive oil helps to slow the cooking process and is very stable at high temperatures, making it an excellent choice for many different types of cooking methods. When used for cooking, olive oil brings out the true flavors of food and it retains all of its nutritional benefits, even when cooking with high heat.”

Then there is Panchkula based Archana Malhotra, who loves to host parties at her place. She is another ardent fan of olive oil, “Virgin olive oil is very versatile. It has great taste and aroma, so it may be used in the same manner as extra virgin varieties. Use virgin olive oil as an addition to cooked dishes before serving and have a great flavour . I personally like to pan-fry in Olive oil as it’s the only cooking oil that preserves the actual taste of the food as it is fried.”

So, these women are shifting towards Olive-oil cooking, as they prefer to call it. But what about men? Well, they aren’t far behind either. Laughs Samir Randhawa, an engineer from Patiala who loves to cook in his free time. “ Many people do not associate olive oil with baking, but it is one of the best oils that can be used for this purpose. Olive oil has been a favorite of bread bakers for centuries, because it results in bread with excellent flavor and texture. According to me, light olive oil is perfect for baking cakes, sweetly flavored breads, or rolls.”

Olive oil is also a good source of vitamin E, which is thought to help protect humans against cancer and heart disease. it is also used in soaps, certain pharmaceuticals, and cosmetics. Opines Meera Gupta from Chandigarh, “I have a sensitive skin and only an Olive oil massage works well with it.

So the pale yellow to greenish oil obtained from the pulp of olives is selling like hot cakes today. Used earlier for lighting, in the preparation of food, and as an anointing oil for both ritual and cosmetic purposes, it’s today fully acceptable as a cooking and body oil. What if it burns a small hole in our pockets? For, isn’t health more important than wealth?

Umeed Se Dugna
Ruchika M. Khanna

Photo by Manoj MahajanVivek Chauhan, a resident of Sector 37, had never imagined that by getting a lucky draw coupon for car service from Berkeley Automobiles, would help him win a new Maruti 800. He had won the car in the ‘Umeed Se Dugna’ lucky draw by the Panchkula-based Maruti dealer, while S. Jha of Manimajra Housing Complex, Chandigarh, who won a Maruti Alto. Jha, who had bought his car from Berkeley, too, won the coupon after getting his car service. The duo were handed over the new cars by Ranjeev Dahuja, Director, Berkeley Automobiles Ltd.

Dahuja said had initiated the ‘Umeed Se Dugna’ scheme in
mid-August. The six-month-old dealership Berkeley, offering the complete Maruti range has sold as many as 1400 cars till date. “We hope to sell another 100 cars by the year-end, and the total sale could be about 2400 cars by the end of this financial year,” he said.

The ‘Umeed Se Dugna’ scheme provided a volley of prizes this festive season and 270 prizes worth Rs 11 lakh were offered. The scheme, launched from August 14 to November 30, provided all customers visiting for free service, paid service, accidental jobs, new cars insurance, previous insurance renewal, purchase of extended warranty on car or purchase of accessories, with the opportunity to participate in various lucky draws. Two daily prizes of a gold coin each were given for the entire duration of the scheme. Weekly prizes consisted of central locking systems, gear locks, televisions, washing machines, DVD players and a microwave oven, totalling to nearly 60 prizes given each week.

Bollywood’s fight against ‘Angrez’
Parbina Rashid

Photo by Manoj MahajanThere is something about Chandigarh. Or how do you explain this magnetic pull it has lately on Bollywood folks. Look around and there are film units everywhere, tapping the farmhouses, country clubs, resorts and other landmarks of the city.

The most recent one to join the bandwagon is Mahendra Dhariwal who is in town to hunt for locations for a song sequence in his forthcoming film with Sunny Deol. And guess what, the city did not disappoint him. He found places to picturise his dream sequence and now he wants provide the perfect backdrop.

So what ignited his interest in Chandigarh, we are curious to know. “Last year I had gone to Manali and on the way stopped at Chandigarh. I was impressed. After seeing Yash Chopra capturing the rustic beauty of Punjab, I too wanted to give it a shot,” says Mahendra.

So impressed with whatever he saw, Mahendra is now toying with the idea of making a bilingual movie, in Hindi and Punjabi. And to strengthen the relationship with Punjab’s film industry, he already signed Pragati Trikha, a local child artiste, for this untitled film.

The film, he lets us know, is a periodic film based on the sepoy mutiny in 1857. In fact he dramatises it by saying, “This film is in fact like Angrez versus Sunny Deol.” We believe him, who can forget Deol’s extraordinary heroic antics in Gadar-ek prem katha.

Mahendra, whose recent Sunny Deol starrer Maa Tujhe Salaam did quite well in the box office is ready with another blockbuster Nahle Pe Dehla featuring stars like Sanjay Dutt and Saif Ali Khan.

Film & FASHION 
Big bids don’t impress Carmen

The fears of sleeping with a stranger have finally been alleviated for actress Carmen Electra, as the man, whose offer was one of the highest in an online bidding for a date with the her, has been disqualified. The former Baywatch star, who is married to rocker Dave Navarro, recently offered her fans to buy the chance to take her out, on the internet auction site eBay.com, but she now regrets being so crazy, as the huge amounts of cash that were bid for a date with her, left her highly concerned. “They were bidding for a date with me on eBay, which was kind of weird, but the money went to charity, so I thought it would be a nice thing to do,” Contactmusic quoted her, as saying. “It went up to some crazy number and I actually felt obligated to, like, sleep with the guy. But I didn’t, because they were disqualified,” she added. — ANI

Naomi Campbell
Naomi Campbell

Vince Vaughn
Vince Vaughn
Carmen Electra
Carmen Electra

Naomi calls Miller a caricature of Moss

Supermodel Naomi Campbell has reportedly gone ballistic once again, and this time the victim of her wrath is actress Sienna Miller, whom the model has accused of stealing her friend Kate Moss fashion ideas. The 35-year-old beauty is furious over the comparisons made between the supermodel, who is currently on a comeback after her alleged cocaine addiction scandal, and the on-and-off girlfriend of Jude law, insisting that Miller is merely a cheap caricature of the catwalk queen. “A lot of people compare the actress Sienna Miller to her. “But I can’t stand to hear that. I don’t know Sienna Miller but there is no comparison to Kate. I don’t like imitations, I like the real thing,” Contactmusic quoted her, as saying. — ANI

Aniston wants to settle down with Vince Vaughn

Former ‘Friends’ star Jennifer Aniston has reportedly revealed that she is ‘desperate’ to settle down and start her own family with beau Vince Vaughn in the upcoming year. The sexy star who hit the singles scene after the much publicised split from Brad Pitt, termed herself ‘lucky’ for finding love once again, and said that she hoped the New Year would see her settling down and having children. “I hope to be on the road to having a family and settling down in the next year. I know I’ve said it before and I desperately don’t want to repeat myself, but I just like being in a partnership. Ideally, I’d like a couple of kids, but who knows?” the Mirror quoted her, as saying. Meanwhile, friends of the actress are happy with Jennifer’s new found happiness. “I’m like, ‘Slow down’ “ you’re gonna start levitating soon, you’re so happy’,” Aniston’s pal Andrea Bendeweld said. — ANI

Kiera forced to cook

British actress Kiera Knightley may have won a Golden Globe nomination for the portrayal of the beloved literary character Elizabeth Bennet in the latest movie adaptation of Jane Austen’s novel Pride and Prejudice, but that has not been able to get her out of doing her cooking chores around the house. The stunning Brit admitted that when she tried to sidestep showing off her culinary skills, her flatmate told her bluntly that her nomination was not going to get her out of doing her part around the house. “It was my turn to cook and when I told my flatmate I had a nomination she said it didn’t mean I was getting out of doing the cooking,” the Daily Mail quoted her, as saying. — ANI

Sharukh cuts down on smoking

Bollywood superstar Shah Rukh Khan has said he has cut down on smoking drastically. ‘’From 70-80 cigarettes a day, I smoke three to four times. I feel healthy and happy. Smoking is bad and a no-no for a person with back pain,’’ said the popular actor who had undergone a spine surgery few years ago. He had declared on his 40th birthday recently that he would give up smoking. Impressed by his resolve, Union Health Minister A Ramdoss had written to him seeking his help in anti-smoking awareness. When asked about it at a press conference here, Shah Rukh said he would not like to be an ambassador about an issue which is entirely the personal choice of an individual. ‘’As a role model, I have been always saying that smoking is bad. I have decided to give up smoking because it is my individual decision and resolve. I always tell the youth that do not do things what your parents say is bad,’’ he said. — UNI

WRITE TO RENNE
Step out of your comfort zone

I have been married for over five years and do not have any kids. Yet frankly, my husband and me enjoy each other’s company very much and do not really feel the need to have kids yet. My husband and his family keep on making remarks about little children. Everyday, my in-laws seem to insinuate as though something is very wrong with me and that I should not have got married if I was not planning to have children. I feel that having children is an externally personal decision and nobody should interfere in it. I do not know how to explain this to the family without hurting their feelings. But this way I am beginning to feel guilty.

—Kitty Malhotra, Patiala

Firstly, get rid of the guilt. You are not committing any crime by being true to your natural self. We are all creatures of a certain kind with certain hopes, fears, desires of our own. And we must never allow anyone to make us feel guilty about who we are and the way are. Since you are the so called modern generation you must realise that your in-laws come from another generation than yours. They obviously view life from their own perspective. For them seeing their son with a family that is with kids of his own is probably a dream come true. They obviously are looking forward to being grand parents. Give them chance. Try to explain to them very calmly that you will have a family of your own at some point in life but right now there are other priorities you are taking care of. You must remember there is certainly a clock ticking and no matter how exciting independence may seem every woman does like to play mom. I advise you keep and open mind to the issue and not over react just because your in-laws are suggesting. I agree kids bring a change in life style but they also bring in a lot of joy. So live it.

I am a 22-year old guy and on my recent vacation from College in Pune, I happened to see your column. I was delighted to know that somebody from my laid back home town was actually trying to give some answer to people’s problems. Well, I have one. My problem are girls. I am extremely gregarious and friendly when it comes to guys but the moment I am in female company, I am tongue- tied . Before I head for a party, I am all geared to play the role of this charming and dashing young man but the moment I am in the midst of the party scene, my confidence seems to hit rock bottom and I seem to just and in a corner and watch. I want to change. Please help.

—Taranvir Singh, Chandigarh

I am glad guys of your age are beginning to accept their hang ups and starting to deal with them. The moment you discover that, you have already taken the first step towards the dealing with it. Shyness is an inherent part of our growing up process and we have to learn to make a conscious effort to deal with it. Being tongue- tied in the presence of the opposite sex age is some thing a lot of people in our country face. It is perhaps a cultural thing and depends on the way you are brought up. Now with the co-educational culture this problems is lessening. Your must remember friends are just friends and people are just people. Interact with them on a one to one level and stop worrying over the girl guy issue. If you can be comfortable with guys why not with girls. Ask a few questions about their hobbies and interests and strike a conversation. Please don’t make it sound like an interview but show keen and healthy interest in the person. As the conversation picks up you will feel your self easing out and not being self-conscious. Once you have made some female friends your self-confidence will naturally increase make your self and interesting person. A fully rounded human being is definitely and attractive person for any girl to deal with. Do it and watch the girls chase you.

We have been dating for the past five years. I am a 25-year-old girl and finally have made a decision. The thing is he is Muslim and comes from a very orthodox family. Since I come from Brahmin family they sound a strange to me. But my family is very modern and has brought me up with a very modern perspective. After due consideration, I have agreed to marry my boy friend as I feel that he is just the right guy for me. But now as the date of commitment approaches closer, I am getting the jitters. Please guide me on how to deal with the situation.

—Mahima Sharma, Ambala City

Dear girl, your apprehensions are indeed well grounded as in our country we have a lot of dilemma on our cultural fronts. But also we must remember it is completely up to us to know how to deal with the scenario. We are living in a colourful set up which is very rich in a cultural way an yet when it comes to marriages between people from different communities, cultural things do get a bit jaded. But in today’s globally indulgent setup we I feel must feel very comfortable with making a few compromises here and there on rigid overviews on life. So learn to step out of your comfort zones to be able to happily embrace another point of view to life. Give in a little to your boy friends family’s set up role and then slowly as you interact with them you can always win their hearts with your love and understanding. Ultimately it is about your happiness. If you love your man enough, you will anyway love his family naturally as after all, they a part of him .So just go for it with an open mind and heart. Surely you’ll be the winner.

I met this guy on a flight home from a holiday in the USA. I am 27-year-old and single. He was coming to India for a holiday and although he is of Indian origin, he has been born and brought up in the USA. We struck an instant chord together and out of the two months be spent traveling around India he spent 15 days with me in my country. Now I feel I am really attracted to him, although he has not committed himself to me completely . We have a mutual understanding. He e-mails me everyday. Tells me how much he misses me. I am really wondering if I should continue with this long distance relationship or just let it go and let it be just a passing phase in my life.

—Ritika Chadha, Chandigarh

Surviving a long distance relationship is quite a mega task in terms of the mental and emotional hard work that goes into sustaining it. For, when you are catching up on a daily or on a regular basis with somebody, the relationship take a natural flow and rhythm. You do not have to make a huge effort to try to really make it happen.

On the other hand if you are far away from each other the emails and phone calls do keep you in touch but at a very different level. It is entirely up to your temperament to see how far you mean to take this relationship. By your age and travel experience you should be mature enough to know how much you want to keep this going. Allow it a certain pace on the email level and then perhaps take a trip down to USA to spend some time together and see how much he interests you. Sometimes you can understand people better through the written word. Allow a healthy friendship to develop and see where it takes you from there.

Rush in your queries to Renee at lifestyle@tribunemail.com or care of Lifestyle, The Tribune, Sector 29-C, Chandigarh

Health and Fitness

Avoid smoke-filled zones: Smoke can precipitate an attack of asthma. Breathing in smoky areas or working in kitchens where firewood is used triggers bronchospasm. This can even affect the growth of a child.

— Dr Rashmi Garg is senior consultant, Fortis, Mohali.

TAROT TALK
What the cards say today...
P. KHURRANA

ARIES : Today you are loving, positive and nourishing in personal relationships. Beware of making rash moves or personal decisions when angry or upset. Lucky Number: 8. Lucky colour: Golden. 
LIBRA : You card "Nine Golden Cups" full of lotus blossoms greet you with love and happiness. Be ready for major changes by the evening. Lucky number: 5. Lucky colour: Rainbow pastels. 
TAURUS : You are receptive in personal relationships bringing change and harmony all round. Spending time alone and meditating in natural surroundings can be therapeutic. Lucky Number: 3. Lucky colour: Brown. 
SCORPIO:  Today you can be one of the two — either the winner or the loser. Capricorn person is not a great help in what you are trying to achieve but in fact a detriment. Lucky number: 15. Lucky colour: Brown. 
GEMINI : The things that usually make life fun for you are now changing. Explore new hobbies, enjoy this new zest for living that you're experiencing. Lucky number: 4. Lucky colour: Citric green. 
SAGITTARIUS : This day is intended for fruitful cooperation, it is to you to choose with whom exactly. Be in touch with sense of humour and ability to celebrate. Lucky number: 3. Lucky colour: Rose. 
CANCER : Hang in there till tomorrow. Investigate longer term investments if you can squeeze money out. You can climb the highest peak with a playful approach. Lucky number: 2. Lucky colour: Blue. 
CAPRICORN : Do what makes you feel virtuous, but don't let other people push you too much. Have faith that your rewards will come in the days ahead. Lucky number: 2. Lucky colour: Blue. 
LEO : You will be full of enthusiasm, but awfully absent-minded. Your actions could appear rather badly coordinated, therefore avoid affinity of fragile subjects. Lucky number: 17. Lucky Colour: saffron. 
AQUARIUS : Today you will have enough time, but you will be short of ideas how to spend it in a sensible way. Your motivation and interest may disappear. Lucky number: 11. Lucky Colour: Crimson 
VIRGO : An auspicious time for experiencing of new sensations. Someone may try to involve you in the conflict, to which you have no slightest relation. Lucky number: 6. Lucky colour: Sea green. 
PISCES: Try not to get hypersensitive about a loved one's comments. You get yourself worked up about things that are trivial and of no consequence. Lucky number: 18. Lucky Colour: Pink.




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