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Look back to your childhood; what do you remember the most? Is it the times you spent getting good grades, the nice clothes that you did or did not wear, the kind of meals on the table at the mealtimes or was it the time you spent together with your siblings and parents playing Monopoly, building blocks and other games? It is surprising that there seem to be few families that play together and have instead taken to video-gaming and playing games on smartphones.
Recent studies have pointed out just how imperative playing with kids is for their development. In a study by Juliet Rayment, Parents and Children Playing Together: A Research Overview on the Benefits of Play for the Development of Children under Two, it has been shown that playing with parents helped kids in their psychological development and to practice conversations and relationships. The study deduced that when the television was on, the quality and quantity of interaction deteriorated. While most parents do realise that they are missing out on valuable interaction, the dynamic requirements of work and social life make this sphere suffer the most. But even professionals can find the time to interact with their kids on a regular basis, if they really intend on doing so and the rewards are hugs and smiles that are simply priceless. Shruti Marriya, a teacher and mother to a three-and-a-half-year-old daughter and ten-year-old son, says, "The time I spend playing with my kids is sacred and there is no excuse good enough not to indulge in some fun with them. They also look forward to our time together and I feel it is very important as it helps us bond well. The time you spend with your kids today is what they will give you back tomorrow." Nine-year-old Kavya Goyal says, "I play with my friends a lot but the time that I spend playing with my brother and parents together, is the most fun. We play carom and I can learn new ways to play from them that I can show my friends later and be admired for the same." His seven-year-old sibling, Yatharth adds, "It is more fun as we learn new tricks to win the same game that other kids our age don't know." A sincere and unpretentious acknowledgement from a child this young gets you thinking as to why more parents don't do the same. Play way While most of us feel playing with children comes naturally to parents, some tips might come in handy next time you are at a loss regarding how to go about play time: Age appropriate: While a ten year old or a teen might enjoy playing scrabble, choose something like Pictionary for younger kids. Similarly, for toddlers, pick a game that involves movement and actions, such as Simon Says. Let them have a say: Try not to dictate what you play during this time and let the kids decide. If you insist on skill-building games that you feel are important for them, they may stop enjoying the together time and the purpose of playing together would be lost. Pace it right Go according to the child's speed and do not be tempted to finish the game or task for him or her. Motivate them but don't criticise them for being slow. Let them lead: Let the kids be in charge and teach you a few skills once in a while, say a videogame. This will enhance their confidence. If you are having fun, you are doing it right!
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Anusha Manjani who works
with Inner Space in Mumbai as a psychologist, says, "Play is
essential during childhood as kids can express themselves better
non-verbally. When they play with their parents, they learn
communication and relationship dynamics like sharing, working in a
group and learning to lose. The carefree atmosphere opens up a window
for communicating difficult topics and getting an insight into the
child's behaviour and help him build self-esteem. Parents can pick an
activity that is enjoyed by both to make playtime something they look
forward to."