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traditional role of the father is to be the provider and of the mother
to be the nurturer. But there are men who decided to surpass their
traditional role and be an inherent part of their children’s life.
They have brought up their children taking the pains yet enjoying the
process, cherishing each moment. Professor J. S. Dargan who retired
from Punjabi University, Patiala, is one such father. His both
children are doctors and are doing well in life. His son, Dr Ramandeep
Dargan, who is a doctor in England says, "It is a pleasure to
talk about my father. His journey from a village in Punjab to a
Professor in Punjabi University is an example of how hard work and
consistency can take one places. He has taught us that modern life can
co-exist with values. Dad achieved a perfect balance between his
professional and family life. His evenings were devoted to us."
Credit goes to Professor Dargan who being from the Department of
Botany did not fall into the rat race of running coaching classes. For
him, being around the children mattered. His wife who is also a
retired professor, swears by her husband’s dedication for the
children. She adds, "My husband would help me dress the children
for their schools and help prepare their tiffins. He was the one who
would make them study and helped them in their projects. More than me,
he was their handy man who took care of all the details because he is
good in everything, be it cooking, sewing, repairing or helping them
in their tasks.I give him full credit for moulding the children into
beautiful human beings."
Mr Rajpal is a businessman based in Ludhiana and is father to two boys. But he, proudly, says, that he is happy to spent twenty-two hours out of twentyfour with his children. Television, Play-station, computers are a big ‘no-no,’ in his household. He explains, "When I am there to spent time with my children and indulge in outdoor activities, there is no room for the modern gadgets which only kill you mentally as well as physically. I take my boys for cycling, trekking, long walks and of course, for cricket. I aspired to play in the Ranjhi Trophy but could not fulfil my dream because of some problems. Once my sons were born, I decided to train them myself if they showed any inclination towards the game. Fortunately, they got interested so we spend three to four hours every day practicing on the grounds. Believe me, this is the best time of the day and it acts as a stress-buster for me as I see my boys grow before me. My wife revels seeing us together and it gives her the much- desired break in the midst of the household chores." Jaswant Dhillon, a property dealer in Ludhaina is another father whose children, Jassimran Kaur and Gurkirat Singh adore him for the role that he plays in their lives. An M.Sc. in Entomology,
it was not long before the business bug bit him, courtesy living in
Ludhiana. He wanted to experiment but he did not want his family life
to be disrupted between switching of jobs, so he encouraged his wife,
Karamjeet, to continue with her regular job while he would stay at
home and look after the children. Karamjeet says, " While I went
to work , Jaswant stayed at home and was there for the children.When I
would come home I would find the children bathed, fed and their
homework for the day, completed." Jassimran says, "Our
father can read our faces and he is there to give us happy hours, even
now with a packed schedule for the day." Prof Ashok is another
father who looked after his daughters, Mudita and Smita when his wife
had to put in long hours at work. Smita says, "Our father was
there for us when we came from school. But my fondest memories are of
him entering the kitchen to cook for me when I was preparing for
various entrance exams. I felt privileged that he did something for me
which he had never done before. Of course, he taught us that God does
not decide what you become in life, rather one has to decide and then
work hard for it. He taught my sister and I to do what we thought was
right. I respect him for his steadfastness and showering unconditional
love on us." Fathers like these do play the traditional role of a
provider but have taken upon themselves to be an important part in
their children’s lives. Besides, accumulating memories for a
lifetime they want to chisel their children’s personality so that
the latter excel in life with both the parents’ contribution.
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