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Fashion’s high point
But this season, the low-rise trend finds petite competition from a retro inspired, more shapely, high-waist cut jeans. From lounging to going for a night out, jeans have become our second skin. And a throwback to late 1970s styles, jeans that sit at your natural waist are back in fashion. While Priyanka Gandhi Vadra made a chic statement by flaunting a neat high-waist trouser to the Parliament, Priyanka Chopra, the latest bollywood fashion icon, was seen flaunting it at a press conference. No, our list doesn't end here, pręt stars like Priety Zinta and Karishma Kapoor were seen wearing it too. And now it hits the city fashion circuit, jeans that are street smart as well as sophisticated. "Higher waisted styles define this seasons style trends. Then be it high-waist pants, skirts, capris or denims, they are all present on the fashion scenes. We saw models walk the ramp with high waist trends, at this year's Fashion weeks and they even ruled the international ramps," says Nandita Raipurani, a Delhi based fashion designer. You can wear them up or wear them down, but they are here to stay. But does the trend easily translate from runway to the real life? "High waist styles are just another fashion trend and like all other trends it has its limitations of wearability, age group and body type," says Payal Saboo, designer 'n' stylist, Polka-8. But then, for all the fashion conscious souls it is a must have. "For high waist style, you must have a defined body, but you can play up with your style," feels Nandita. So get ready to make a move toward high-waisted pants by donning a trouser with a higher waist, wider legs, or straight and slightly tapered jeans. And its not just denims or trousers but skirts and high waist corset dresses that adds an air of sophistication. To complete the look, you can accessorise with belts, waistbands or high boots. "You can team up a high waist jeans with a loose shirt or top, for that street smart loose-on-top and fitted-from-bottom look," says Payal. If you crave for those long lean legs, then high-rise style is just the look for you. It gives an illusion of height and creates a long lean silhouette. Also you can play up with your curves with high-rise jeans, it is ideal for naturally curvy women as well as for girls with boyish figures who want to create that hour-glass frame. For winter chic, "Skirts in warm fabrics and corduroys or denims are perfect for winters. Designs in checks, tweeds can be paired up with coats or mufflers and closed shoes," says Shelly, owner, Shelly's -8. Now with such rising style statements, you can experiment with the retro look or casually chic and the more dressy ones. It's time you go high on style,
literally! lifestyle@tribunemail.com
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Bargaining to power
The high priestess of Indian fashion, Ritu Kumar, feels India is no longer a place where foreigners come to look for the best bargains as it has made an exclusive place for itself on the global fashion map.
"To put it candidly, India was always a place where people came to buy cheap. It is changing now. Along with China, India's fabrics, designs and textiles are going places. The country is no more the place where people, especially foreigners, can buy cheap," Kumar told IANS in an interview. The French Government on Monday honoured Kumar with the prestigious Chevalier dans l'Ordre des Arts et des Lettres award (Knight of the Order of Arts and Letters) in recognition of her contribution to Indian fashion. "It is nice to have an acceptance of our own cultural heritage, which is what this award is all about," the 64-year-old designer said. At present, Kumar is working out of Jaipur. "I am partnering with the craftsmen and block printers of Bagru and Sanganer on the outskirts of Jaipur and with clusters of local weavers who make handloom fabrics," she said. Her focus is rangrez or tie-and-dye, the traditional fabric of Rajasthan, block prints and stylised bootis (circular and floral motifs). "The bootis have remained unchanged over the decades. I am trying to take the basic ethnicity as well as the roots and give it a modern kind of feeling," Kumar said. Kumar has been credited with creating Indian pret-a-porter or ready-to-wear clothes from traditional fabrics and using indigenous techniques for haute couture. She has clothed the late Princess Diana, Jemima Khan, Sushmita Sen, Aishwarya Rai and almost all the winners of the Miss India title. The House of Ritu Kumar, which completed 40 years in 2008, began modestly in West Bengal with two tables and four hand block printers from the countryside in the 1960s. She has experimented with almost all the Bengal village weaves ---- from the khadi of Nabadweep to the dhaga of Ranihati. "I ventured into designing by accident," Kumar said with a laugh. "In the 1960s, the concept of textile in fashion did not exist. It was more of a subject of study." So, Kumar studied textiles across the state and then the country through its crafts, before drifting to fashion. She recalls how all her friends turned models for her first show at The Trincas in Kolkata in the 1970s. The designer loves to work with cotton. "I like the nature of the fabric because it's natural. But as it does not have very good drapes, it has to be worn crinkled. You cannot iron cotton into natural folds," she added.
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Shooting star
Akshay Kumar got to do some heady action sequences in Nikhil Advani's forthcoming Chandni Chowk To China, but the action hero says fighting with Chinese martial arts master Gordon Liu was the toughest part of the film.
"I have watched 36 Chambers of Shaolin 52 times before doing the film. Doing action for it and fighting with the Chinese masters, particularly Sir Gordon Liu, was the most difficult in the movie," said Akshay. Gordon Liu is known for his acts in Hollywood films like the Kill Bill series and the Shaolin series, including 36 Chambers of Shaolin. In Chandni Chowk to China, Akshay plays a simple cook from Delhi who goes to China to try his luck there. "Getting into the character was not difficult as I have been a cook in my real life, but shooting for the movie has been a difficult experience," Akshay told reporters at the film's music release. "We have shot at the Great Wall of China and shooting there in extreme cold conditions was quite tough," he said. The actor whose recent releases have raked up over Rs 500 crore worldwide business, virtually threatening to upstage Bollywood badshah Shah Rukh Khan, said that he owed his success to hard work and blessings of his parents. "People like me and Shah Rukh had no forefathers in the film industry. But, we made it due to our hard work and blessings of our parents. If we can do it,
anybody can," he said. Chandni Chowk To China will hit theatres on
January 16, 2009.
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Script it right
Bollywood biggies in the field of writing, direction and production will come together to discuss the aesthetics of scriptwriting in Indian cinema in a two-day conference on screenwriting
Beginning December 13, the conference, would pay a posthumous tribute to the legendary Marathi playwright Vijay Tendulkar. His works will also be deliberated upon during the two-day event. Apart from stalwarts like Javed Akhtar, Kamal Haasan, Ashutosh Gowariker, Rajkumar Hirani, Anurag Basu, Rakeysh Omprakash Mehra and others, around 500 practicing and aspiring script writers will come together to share and discuss the issues related to the craft of scriptwriting. |
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Rab bacha le jodiyan
With Mumbai terror attacks taking away audience from theatres, Bollywood is keeping its fingers crossed over the fate of next two biggies Shahrukh Khan starrer Rab Ne Bana di Jodi releasing this week and Aamir Khan's Ghajini scheduled to hit the screens on Christmas.
Since the 26/11 terror attacks, important small budget films like Sorry Bhai, Oye Lucky, Lucky Oye, Maharathi, Meerabai Not Out, Dil Kabbadi have been released to a dismal opening. Other films including Chanchal, The President is coming, Transporters 3, Oh My God, Gunaam-the mystery sank without a trace. Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi, which marks the return of Aditya Chopra as director after eight years, is releasing on December 12. While Ghajini is slated for a December 25 release. Trade analysts said many shows of earlier released films after the terror attacks were cancelled because of lack of audiences. “The film industry has pinned its hopes on Rab Ne Bana di Jodi and Ghajini. It is in the industry's interests that both the films should be money earners at the box office," the analysts said adding the two films are expected to do well. |
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SRK whittles down promo of Rab Ne…
Bollywood actor Shahrukh Khan has hoped his forthcoming release Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi will strike a chord with the audience for its simplicity. "I think people will love it for its simplicity. I have not played character like this which is both real and funny," he
said. The film, which is Khan's first commercial release in 2008 after Om Shanti Om, is directed by Aditya Chopra opposite a debutant actor Anoushka Sharma. Appreciating Anoushka's work in the film, he said that she was the requirement of the story to make it realistic and she has done a good
job. "The new actors today, I feel are more educated, informed and work with passion and hard work and Anoushka has all this. The movie also demanded a new character as the story would be more realistic when Surender Sahni, Raj and Tani meet and they should look real characters and not actors," he added.The film slated for release on December 12 comes in the backdrop of the recent terror attack in Mumbai. Khan said he was not very enthusiastic promoting his film, but as the life goes on he believes his film would help audience divert their mind from the dastardly terror attack. "I believe that if through our work we are able to share people's pain, divert it slightly through Rab De Bane Di Jodi. I am not enjoying the advertisement and marketing of the film at this point of time, as it is not a good occasion. We started promoting the film just a few days ago," Khan said. In the film, Shahrukh Khan plays a common man Surinder Sahni who goes for a makeover to win love of his wife played by
Anoushka. The distributors of the film are of the opinion that a big release after the Mumbai terror attack would shake off the apprehensions of the people to visit public places and would revive the confidence of entertainment capital. |
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The Chocolate factory
The rich, pure and dark mass of cocoa that melts into your mouth, leaving behind the heavenly taste and sinful cravings for more. Now, who wouldn’t want to leave behind all the luxuries of the world for some pure indulgence in a piece of happiness called chocolate? If one thing that can keep us away from chocolate is, well, chocolate itself. The sheer pleasure of having it doesn’t let us experiment with its taste. But what if you have options like, chocolate with garam masala or rose petals?
Well, that’s where chef Abhiru Biswas, technical advisor, Barry Callebaut, the word’s leading manufacturer of cocoa, chocolate and confectionery products, comes into the picture. In city to hold a workshop at the Chitkara School of Hospitality, he talked about chocolates, chocolates and more chocolates. In the business of making world’s finest chocolates, Abhiru says, “Chocolates are like wine. Their flavour and their finesse depends on their place of origin of the cocoa crop.” Callebaut specialises in three premium chocolate brands, Callebaut from Belgium, Cocoa Barry from France and Carma from Switzerland. Having worked with big names like the Oberoi, the Taj and Hyatt group, Abhiru singles out the reason why Belgian chocolates are the finest. “Because of their richness and spicy flavour. It doesn’t stay on your palate and to enjoy its full flavour, just take a long breath after tasting and seep in its aroma,” he says. So whether it is woody flavour of Ghana, milky chocolates of Java, or rich and dark flavours of Venezuela and Mexico, it makes for some exceptional chocolates in the world. But for some one whose day starts and ends with chocolates (he ends up eating 250gms of chocolate everyday) adding Indian spice to this global delicacy comes easy. “I do whatever I can with the chocolates. I like infusing sweet lime juice with spices and jelly with a layer of chocolate and Earl Gray tea. I want to mix the core spices and herbs of India with chocolate and present it to the world market,” he says. But chocolate and spices? “The spicy aroma of a chocolate comes with its high acidic flavour, giving it an individual influence,” he clarifies. But chocolates also means living with the guilt of adding sinful calories to your body. And so where does the healthy options go? “Apart from being your taste buds’ favourite, chocolates have health benefits too. They are a better antioxidants than grapes and are completely healthy,” he stresses. Finding his own passion in this world, Abhiru Biswas is now happy educating Indians about chocolates and the many things that can be done with
it. Compound not chocolate
To satiate our urge for chocolate, all we have to do is go to some nearby confectioners and grab a slab from the shelf. Easy, not really. Says
Abhiru, “If you think what we get in the market is chocolate then you are mistaken. Chocolate means it should have cocoa butter and cocoa liquor along with some milk fats. But mostly, some ‘compounds’ that call themselves chocolate contain vegetable fats.” So that means chocolate sans cocoa butter is not chocolate? “Right. The minimal amount of cocoa butter present should be 32 per cent and the amount of cocoa butter content decides its
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Patron of art
Kishore Kumar loved to see himself as a patron of the arts and would often say that Satyajit Ray's critically acclaimed Pather Panchali would not have been made without his help. This is just one of the interesting anecdotes filmmaker Shoojit Sircar chanced upon while researching for his biopic on the legendary singer-actor-director.
Do any of Kishore Kumar's fans know he had partly financed Satyajit Ray's career-making Pather Panchali? A fact Kishore Kumar never tired of reminding Ray about whenever they bumped into each other in Kolkata, said Sircar. "Kishore Kumar never stopped preening about this fact to close friends, 'Do you know India's greatest film Pather Panchali could've never been made if it wasn't for me'? He loved to see himself as a patron of the fine arts. In fact, some of the films that Kishore Kumar directed, like Door Gagan Ki Chaon Mein, reflected the sensitivities of Ray," Sircar said. The director, who's busy scripting the biopic, is overjoyed that the legendary singer-actor's family shared their experiences and memories with him, but says he would love some inputs from Lata Mangeshkar and Asha Bhonsle too. Anxious to meet the singing geniuses, Sircar said: "I've read so many of Lata-ji's and Asha-ji's observations on Kishore-da. They'd be invaluable in giving shape to the biopic." Unfortunately, meeting the sisters, who have sung innumerable songs with Kishore Kumar, is not that easy for a director who's just one-film old. "But fortunately for me, the Ganguly family - wife Leena Chandavarkar-ji, sons Amit and Sumeet Kumar - have opened their hearts and homes to me. I don't know why. Partly because I'm Bengali. They've shared their rarest of experiences with Kishore-da, and unreleased songs and rare footage from his films," said Sircar, whose first film Yahaan received much appreciation. Sircar intends to incorporate images, songs and the real voice of Kishore Kumar in the movie based on his life. Thanks to the unconditional support of the Ganguly family, Sircar's biopic, which he starts shooting next year, will reflect the unknown side of the multi-faceted Kishore Kumar. "We've seen enough of the eccentric side. Now we'll see the sensitive side of the man who sang numbers as deeply moving as Chingari koi bhadke and Mere naina sawan bhadow and who patronised Satyajit Ray's cinema," Sircar said. Asked about the casting, the director said he was amused and perturbed by the names doing the rounds in the media. "Please, it's not Aamir (Khan), Shah Rukh (Khan) or Hrithik Roshan playing Kishore Kumar. I don't know where they got these names from. I'll first complete the script before I even think of whom to cast. For all we know, we may cast a complete newcomer," he said. —PTI, IANS, ANI |
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Kaun banega reality judge
Rahul Mahajan, the celebrity participant of the recently concluded reality show Bigg Boss will now be seen judging Chote Miyan to be aired on Colours from December
13.
Rahul joins noted actor-filmmaker Sachin Pilgaonkar in the panel of judges in the show, which will feature 13 kids who will try to outsmart each other in stand up comedy. Speaking to reporters, Rahul said that he considers himself a child at heart and being part of the show will help him to re-discover himself. Similarly, Hema Malini will join Jeetendra to judge another reality show Dancing Queen. Ten actor-cum- dancers will mentor ten newcomers to bag the
title. Hema said dance is close to her heart and the show was the right platform to make a debut as judge on
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Second innings
Wonder why the clergy, cleric, priests and prophets of the world haven’t yet officially declared jewellery as the forbidden apple and spring of the heinous sins in the world? For, can women not rob their paramour, kill their spouse, and even annihilate their significant other for the first love ooops the true love—trinkets. Let’s give a legal definition.
The first, last and the only true love! Aptly explains why even in times of recession, Silver Smith India Ltd announced the setting up of its second Jewellery Design and Technology Institute in the city on Wednesday. Refreshing news in times of recession, meltdown and layoffs. The institute, first set up in 1999 in Noida, will provide training in jewellery designing and manufacturing at the city’s unofficial hub of institutes, Sector 35. But why Chandigarh straight after Noida? Says Ritu Malik, C.E.O, “Chandigarh is a potential educational hub, as students from nearby states of Punjab, Himachal and Haryana have an easy access to the city.” Skipping the technical aspects— the manufacturing, the soldering, the education part, we move straight to the aesthetics. What are the trends that will rule this season? Smita Singh, senior faculty and head of JDTI, says, “Coloured stones are going to be in, in an even bigger way. Colours like, red, purple, will rule the palette.” On how to wear one’s pieces, she adds, “If its diamond wear it like one. The same goes for silver. Copper or any other metal is equally beautiful, there’s no need to hide it under fake furnishing.” So much for the first chapter design of the course! On the changes in sporting jewels, B.K Narula, chairperson, Silver Smith India Ltd, says, “People don’t buy gold or diamonds for security any more. The focus is on wearable light pieces.” The institute boasts of placing students in the leading companies like Nakshatra, D’Damas, Asmi and even Cartier. And what do they have to say about authentic Indian jewellery? Says Ritu, “It is a craze abroad. Moreover, the Indian jewellery is distinctive and unique. There are various styles like kundan and meenakari that have not been exploited to the core.” Adds Smita; “We even have a part of the curriculum where there are crafts based designs. Students are taught various indigenous crafts of jewellery and improvise on them.” With all the page-three celebs and names like Farah Ali Khan, Queenie Dhody, spilling over to jewellery designing, wouldn’t it be difficult to create a niche and name for oneself in the market? Quips Ritu, “That’s not necessary. Lot of people started their business in one room houses and are names to reckon with in the industry today.” Exactly the stuff inspirations are made of. manpriya@tribunemail.com |
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Peppy numbers
Another day, another self professed hit Punjabi singer— Preet Brar, who claims to be the duet king of Punjabi music industry released his new album, Poodna Returs on Wednesday at Press club-27. The album has 11 songs and the title track is Tera bada karara pudna. “It is a peppy number with meaningful lyrics”, says Preet about the title number. Having sung duets with Puja for the album, he feels duet songs are the trend in Punjab these days. Lal Kamal has given the music and lyrics are by Sukha38 Wala.
Though, the singer already has some 12 albums to his credit, he feels hard work has to be put in for every new project. “So many youngsters want to be a singer today. They think that by spending a few lakh rupees and releasing an album they can become one. But one has to learn music first and then take up singing as a profession.” Preet was also the lead actor in Iqbal Dhillon’s Punjabi Film Kaun Kisse Da Baillee.—TNS |
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DIL MIL gaye!
But are MILs really that creepy. Well, a research carried out by Dr Terri Apter, a psychologist and senior tutor at Newnham College, Cambridge University, certainly indicates so. "Women find mothers-in-laws hardest to deal with, and the friction often leads to long-term unhappiness and stress," reads his study. Back home, the saas-bahu saga has been a fodder for scriptwriters, who are constantly churning out tearjerkers which depict MILs as coldest of adversaries wielding weapons of criticism and tyranny on their delicate DILs (daughter-in-laws). We try to explore the dynamics behind this rather complex relationship. Priya (name changed) says the Freudian concept of Oedipus complex is in reality the reason for friction between women and their daughter-in-laws. "The saas-bahu soaps add to the agony. Also, I feel that women whose husbands are not caring enough end up getting too attached to their sons and in a daughter-in-law they find a rival. In contrast, women, who have a happy marriage, want their sons to experience the same bliss," she quips. Finances also sometimes add to the mess, she adds. "If parents are financially dependent (forced by circumstances or otherwise) on their son, they can't tolerate a newly-arrived girl getting a share of the pie too. And that further complicates the situation," feels Priya. Arti Nehra of Sector 15 agrees with Priya. "The boy is the bone of contention. He is the most important entity in the life of both the women. They try to outdo each other in order to win his favour. This leads to chaos," she says. Amanpreet Kanwal of Sector 36 gives more insight into the matter. "Every relationship has to undergo teething troubles. It takes some time for the bond to develop. Things are difficult for both the parties initially. For a young bride going and trying to gain acceptance in a new family and leaving behind a particular way of a life is pretty tough. On the other hand, the MIL is in a tight spot too, as she feels threatened that a new girl will bring an upheaval in her house. In such a scenario, it gets important for both the women to see each other's point of view,' she opines. On the personal front, Amanpreet feels her husband played a very constructive role in her smooth adjustment to the new set-up. "He always supported me when I was right and also made me understand Mamma's point of view when I was wrong," she adds. Varsha Kalra of Sector 10, Panchkula, also feels lucky to have settled down well in the new family. "Like everyone, I had my apprehensions in the beginning. But all credit goes to my mum-in-law for treating me like a daughter and not DIL," she beams. The MIL brigade also feels that it is very natural for the relationship to have a bumpy beginning. "It's natural, mother-in-laws can never be mothers and DILs can never replace daughters," says Sector 46 Kailash Sharma, who has been a bahu for the last 40 years and is now playing a saas for the last decade. "From my experience, I can say the mother-daughter bond is something unique and a girl from another house can hardly take that place. In our times, bahus tried to adjust to the family's culture but today DILs, who are earning and independent, are not ready to give up their ways and adjust," she adds. Sudesh Nagpal of Sector 44 further substantives: "It's been an old adage that ik javain beta ni ban sakda te nu dhi. Yet in our times joint family was the norm, which ensured adjustment. However, these days, girls come with a mindset that they want an independent life. All we want is that our children should be happy and visit off and on. If they are happy doing so, so are we." However, there are a few who believe in pampering their DILs. "When I entered my in-laws' house as a young bride, there was no MIL to guide me through. Though my father-in-law was too kind, I missed an elderly woman in the house. Now, I make sure that I am there for my daughter-in-law always," says Krishna Sharma of sector 8 Panchkula. According to sociologist Rajesh Gill, the saas-bahu relationship has traditionally been a problematic one. "Today's scenario only adds to problem. Now, women want freedom and that means that they are in no mood to share. In traditional family setups, spousal relationship was never the focus. It was more of 'family you marry' kind of a thing," she says. Gill feels it's not education but values that help one attain blissful relationships. "It's all about sharing. Son is everything to mother and vice-versa, the equation changes with the entry of DIL. As a layman one is not mentally conscious to understand the sensitivity of the situation and reacts, leading to chaos. The key is to understand each other. The girls need to break the stereotypes. Not every MIL is a monster. The emphasis should be on gelling with the new setup. One also needs to say no to ego, one-upmanship generally breeds trouble in sensitive relationships. As far as, MILs are concerned they should not see the new woman in their house as a competitor,' she asserts. mona@tribunemail.com |
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Daddies’ kids
Fathers who take keen interest in their child's education are likely to bring up well-behaved kids, according to a new study. What's more, kids with such fathers achieve better exam results, the research found.
The study conducted by the Department for Children, Schools and Families found "consistent evidence" that a father's involvement plays a considerable part in a child's attainment. Studies have suggested that fathers are now more involved than they were in the 1970s, particularly for those with children under five. "There is evidence, however, of great variation in levels of fathers'' involvement, so that even though levels have increased on average, a substantial proportion of fathers recorded no daily direct interaction time with their children." Almost seven in 10 fathers insisted they want to be more involved with their child's education. However, quality, not quantity of time spent plays a crucial role. "The quality and content of father's involvement matter more for children's outcomes than the quantity of time fathers spend with their children," said the report. It showed that kids with fathers who took an interest in their education were more likely to get better exam results, a higher level of educational qualifications, make greater progress at school and have higher educational expectations. They were also more likely to have a more positive attitude and be better behaved, the report concluded. Schools Minister Jim Knight also urged parents to take a greater interest in their child's education. He said parents were one of the 'most important' influences on a child's educational attainment. "Parents are the experts in their own children. Teachers are experts in learning. If we can bring those two things together, children will benefit hugely," he added. - ANI |
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Write to
Renee
I am 35 years old living in an abusive marriage for the last 15 years. I was married soon after college to a businessman chosen by my family. I have been fighting depression for the last few years. My kids are suffering as much as I am as my husband is into alcohol and drugs and also a compulsive spender. He has driven us into a very tight spot financially also apart from the fact that he is a social embarrassment. I am a qualified MBA and work with a small company but taking a firm step is a problem. Please advise.
Anuradha Sidhu,
Jallandhar The reason that you are suffering so much is that you are not really dealing with your whole problem. You are so marinated in self-pity for years that it has become a habit. Just dry your eyes and get down to work. Instead of trying to cope with the situation why don't you create a new world for yourself? Separation from a spouse is not the only answer to resolving a situation. There could be other ways of dealing with it and the first one is to change your own attitude towards your own situation. That will also make your kids see life from a different perspective. Learn to love yourself and give yourself some emotional pampering, your husband will also come around once you view your situation differently, life will ease, you are an educated woman, do not allow the situation to get to you. Loving older woman
I am a 28 years old guy working as a lecturer . I have fallen in love with one of my colleagues who is 42 years old. I think of her day and night and never seem to get over it. She is single and lives with her parents. I am wondering if it would be all right for me to ask her for a date, I do not want to offend her in any way. I feel she is a very serious woman and needs to have some fun in life. Do I need to feel guilty about my feelings? I really don't know. My friends seem to think I am crazy. How can I resolve my feelings I feel I will go crazy if I don't ask her. Please advise. Raman Bhardwaj,
Khanna No need to feel guilty over your feelings, we all have the right to feel just the way we want. Yes, society has earmarked it for us that men must only marry or fall in love with someone younger than us, that is more socially acceptable. Well, love does have its ways. But then till you have not met and interacted with a person how can you be sure that you are in love. Do ask the person for a date and see how it goes, may be you will at least become good friends. We are most of the time so busy trying to prove a point to the world that we ignore our own inner yearnings. Use an affirmation. "The person who is good and right for me should come into my life" There is a higher power above us listening, it will make things happen for you. Do not remain in confusion. Feeling love is the most beautiful feeling as long as you know how to deal with it. Well put your mind on various other relationships too, but definitely do date this one to resolve your feelings. Soul searching
I am a 28 years old girl and would love to know how to build self-confidence. I can't trust anyone as I feel everyone is trying to make a fool of me. I have been through one broken relationship where I feel I was really taken advantage of. Now I feel constantly threatened by everybody. I feel lost and lonely, as I have no one to turn to. I have always had lots of friends who seem to be avoiding me these days since I am snappy and irritable. I so want to get love in my life. Please give me some sane advise to help me become a stronger woman. Niti Ramchandra,
Chandigarh at lifestyletribune@gmail.com or Life Style, The Tribune, Sector 29-C, Chd |
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When it comes to basic fashion essentials, a good pair of jeans always tops the list. An ultimate fashion accessory, they have evolved with the changing fashion scene and have yet maintained its charm. Then be it the no-nonsense straight fits to more hourglass type flared to boot-cuts and then classy gap jeans to the lean skinny ones they have been there and have altered their fits to suit a different flavour and style.
She's one woman for whom hatred comes naturally. Ask any newlywed or would-be bride what scares her the most. The answer in all likelihood would be: Mother-in-law (MIL) aka monster-in-law.
Don't worry so much about yourself, the world is really a beautiful place, you must change your attitude to see it that way. It is never a matter of age, we all need love and acceptance. And confidence stems from love and acceptance. But then self-love is the most important from of love. Practice that and love from others will come to you automatically. It doesn't matter how old you are, there is an inner child inside all of us. No matter how self-reliant you might be for the outside world, somewhere deep inside we all want to feel looked after, loved and nurtured. Allow yourself the luxury of feeling this way. Learn to trust your own self and you will feel that you can trust others too.