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The recent shooting incident in a school has brought the role of parents and schools centrestage, Aarti Kapur reports from Gurgaon
After this gory incident, a question mark has been put on these big high-tech schools which are mushrooming. What about the basic values given by the rich to their children? They are often encouraged to be harsh with their friends and teachers. The teacher-student relationship has totally changed. There was a time when teachers were highly respected in society and they dedicated their life to enlighten children. Only a few students pay respect to their teachers nowadays. On their part, teachers too do not show any attachment to their students and there are signs of change in their attitude towards students. Satya Vir Yadav said that the institution arranges counselling sessions frequently to impart good values to the children but the wards of the parents forgot that their kin spend only 25 per cent of their time in school. For rest of the time they are at home, so the parents have to act as counsellors to their child. Increasing pressure of studies, the need to excel and reduction in interaction with parents leads to pent up anger, which comes out as an outburst at any occasion. They do not know how to control their anger, and hence they direct it at anyone who comes their way. Aggressive behaviour is often transferred to the children from parents. The need of the hour is that the parents, wards, school authority and teachers should wake up and try to ensure that such incidents are not repeated. They should focus more on the student-teacher relationship rather than on electronic gadgets. Prof. Abha Singh Director, Amity Institute of Psychology and Allied Sciences stated that many a times children who come from rural background face lots of adjustment problems in schools of metro cities. It's like a "culture shock" for them and hence special counselling session should be organised at the initial stage of admission itself, for the child as well as the parents, so as to make them comfortable and to dispel their related fears, myths and misconceptions. She added that "it’s very easy to become a father and a mother but it’s really difficult to become a good parent". Most of the parents are either not aware or lack competence in catering to the emotional needs of their children. Child's need for emotion is more than calcium and vitamins. Singh said that psychological counselling should be a part of regular school functions.
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THE recent incident at
the Euro International school, Gurgaon, where class VIII boys killed
their classmate with a revolver in the school campus as he used to
bully them is an eye-opener. We are forced to think about the
environment in which children are growing up under the influence of
arms and money. Money and the status of parents is the criteria for
the admission of children to the top schools of the city. According to
Satya Vir Yadav, Chairman of Euro International School, the trend
among the parents is to get children admitted to the most expensive
school in town. After enrolling them, they forget to monitor their
daily activities. They are unaware about the peers with whom kids
interact, as they themselves have busy schedules. In many nuclear
families both parents are earning and have a single child. Children,
on their part, think that their parents have enough money so they can
act any which way and their parents wil protect them.