Listen for success Active listening implies listening with intensity, empathy and acceptance. Karl Menninger rightly exclaimed, "The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward, and we want to sit in their radius." When someone listens, he says to us: You are important You are worth my time and attention You are saying something worth hearing You are an interesting person You are ok. Blocks to listening The average employee spends about three-quarters of every working day in verbal communication. Nearly half the time is spent listening. The average employee is about 25 per cent effective as a listener. The various barriers to listening are:
Lend your ears David Schwartz has said in his book 'The Magic Of Thinking Big': "Big people monopolise the listening. Small people monopolise the talking." Anthony Eden considered Winston Churchill's outstanding leadership characteristic to be his willingness to listen: he never cut off a suggestion with a curt dismissal but encouraged elaboration. San Walton, founder of Wal-Mart and one of the richest men in America, listened. Once he flew his aircraft to Mt. Pleasant, Texas, and parked the plane with instructions to the co-pilot to meet him 100 or so miles down the road. He then flagged a Wal-Mart truck to stop and rode the rest of the way to "chat with the driver." He said, "It seemed like so much fun." Ben Feldman was the first insurance salesman to pass the goal of $ 25 million in one year and then to double that figure. He had been New York Life's leading salesman for more than two decades. He did this in East Liverpool, a small town of 20,000 on the Ohio River. When asked for his secret, he said:
Hearing aids Here are some ways to improve listening habits:
Listening is the key to success. As Irving Shapiro, former chairman of Du Pont, said, "People who accomplish things do more listening than talking." Thus, in order to be successful we must cultivate a habit of listening effectively.
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