Vinta had the best of everything. Yet she
had a shyness which stemmed more from uncertainty, lack of confidence
and fear. The directive "don’t talk to strangers" robbed her
of spontaneity. "Don’t wear anything provocative",
translated into her looking dowdy."Come back home before it gets
dark" restricted her from staying back in school for sports or
opting for outstation school trips. Not being allowed to take decisions
hampered her ability to deal with life. While these restrictions did
"save her from trouble" they also shaped her personality.
Always fearing danger and
mishap, her reflexes, body language, expression and words reflected a
built-in caution which automatically put people on guard. She grew up to
be lonely, feeling alienated from her peer group and secretly desiring
freedom. Shubra too had begun to endorse the same views. She had no
choice but to reconcile. Reading horror stories in the newspapers about
how unsafe Delhi had become she felt if her husband’s over concern and
caution were faults, they were faults on the right side. After all what
could be more important than their daughter’s safety ? Besides she
could party, stay out, go for night shows, to discos and wear all the
clothes she wanted when she was grown up enough to handle herself.
The only time Shubra
protested was when the time came for Vinta to make a career choice.
Being amongst the top five in class, her plans of doing biotechnology
from the best university in USA were trashed by Aman. His reasoning, to
Shubra’s mind, was ridiculous and bordering on the insane. He did not
want her to ruin her eyesight and life studying for an "inane"
course. He wanted to marry Vinta off early so that she could be safely
handed over to her in-laws who can decide her future. Vinta was not even
18 and he was talking of getting her married before she turned 21! What
had happened to him ? Where was the progressive, bubbling-with-ideas man
she had courted and married ? Why had he become so out of sync with the
world around him, especially the world inhabited by his only child?
Finding his wife gang-up with his daughter, threw Aman off-balance.
Shubra decided that the time had come for Aman to let the child go. He
had to stop using her as his alter ego. It was bad enough trailing the
kid like a shadow all the time, according her no privacy, checking her
e-mails on the sly, enquiring after her in college, scared she might get
into a bad relationship. Why couldn’t he have faith in her and in his
own self? He needed to ask himself some tough questions and, for once,
she was not going to make it easy. She had quit her job when he felt
Vinta was growing up and would need a mother around. She had stopped
travelling or socialsing just to be able "to keep an eye on
her."
But this was too much.
Marriage at 18, not finishing graduation, denying permission for a
professional course she had got 100 per cent scholarship for was being
too unreasonable and she would have nothing of it. Seeing the way
marriages were shaping up it was imperative their daughter at least have
a professional degree. Since Vinta was academically oriented, it would
be unfair to thwart her aspirations. It was not going to be easy letting
Vinta go, for she would miss her so, yet this was one thing she would
fight for, even if it meant seeing her marriage crack up. Shubhra knew
that at times one had to go beyond concerns for the self and the comfort
zones that one creates around oneself. One had to defy norms and even
stand the risk of being labelled negative to do what you believe to be
right. Maybe there would be some good in this for Aman too. He needed to
develop a more normal attitude as the father of a daughter. It would
neither diminish his standing in his daughter’s life nor make him less
of a father. All he needed to do as Vinta’s friends often said was,
"to take a chill pill and let the ladies do what they thought was
right".
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