Saturday, September 6, 2003 |
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THERE are no hard-and-fast rules for a happy marriage, I know, but even so some marriages do seem like miracles. When the soft-hearted Simran married the hard-as-nails Raj, their friends wrote-off the marriage even before they returned from their honeymoon. In fact, when it became known that they were contemplating marriage, even their closest friends found the news hard to swallow. Anyone who knew Siman, a
gentle schoolteacher, knew that she found it hard to take
criticism from anyone she loved, while Raj, a hard-headed
salesperson, was known for his tendency to give a hard time to anyone
he came into contact with. It didn’t take a genius to figure out
that Raj’s behaviour would be hard on their marriage. Even
though Simran would have been justified in feeling hard-done-by,
she harboured no hard feelings against Raj, though, of course,
she had to harden her heart whenever he was hard on her. |
It seems to have worked, though, but then perhaps Raj is one of those people who only learn their lessons the hard way. Last heard the two of them were enjoying the hard-won harmony in their marital life. Some people say that they are hard-pressed to understand what makes their marriage work, but then these people forget that women like Simran are hard to come by. Key to phrases used Hard-and-fast: not able to be changed Hard as nails: very tough, completely callous or unfeeling Hard to swallow: difficult to believe Hard to take: difficult to accept Hard-headed: tough, not influenced by emotions Give someone a hard time: deliberately make a situation difficult for someone Be hard on something: to have a bad effect on something Hard-done-by: if you feel hard-done-by, you feel you have not been treated fairly No hard feelings: used to tell someone with whom you have been arguing that you do not feel anger towards them anymore Harden one’s heart: feel or show less emotion Be hard on someone: to treat someone in a way that is unfair or too strict Hard knocks: used to refer to being in a situation which is not pleasant. Hard-bitten: not easily shocked or upset because you have had a lot of experience Take a hard line on something: to deal with something in a very strict way Take a hard look at something: to think about something without being influenced by your feelings Take something hard: to feel upset about something Learn something the hard way: used to mean learning from unpleasant experiences rather than by being taught Hard-won: achieved after a lot of effort Be hard-pressed to do something: find something difficult to do Hard to come by: difficult to find (Reference: Longman
Advanced American Dictionary) |