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Her travel schedule was unpredictable. Most of the time, she was
juggling appointments and rescheduling meetings. Then she spent two
hours doing aerobics and exercising at the gym. It was an obsession
and she was convinced that she loved the feel of the music, the
agility of the body and the buoyancy of the spirit. After working out,
she would be desperate to plan her evening and a get-together with
friends or business associates. On a few daring occasions, she tried
her hand at online dating and/or meeting a person after a long chat in
the Internet chat room. None of these things left her feeling
satisfied or serene. She was always on edge but could not pinpoint her
finger to it. Initially, she did not realise that there was anything
the matter with her. There was always a reason for her obnoxious
behaviour in office : "The employees are good for nothing";
"they are ungrateful wretches, used to free lunches, earning
bonuses and demanding off days without deserving it"; "if
you want to run a business, you have to be like Hitler, yield a whip
and keep them in their place"; "they only understand the
language of anger, responding only when stinkers are issued or they
are hauled up" Some of her business decisions regarding
partnerships backfired as she got taken in by people who did not have
a good track record. On the personal front too none of her
relationships were working out since she was unable to set clear
priorities or devote the right amount of time and effort to them.
Being a single woman and
one who lived by her own rules, she had distanced herself from the
family which meant that there were that many less people to tell her
how difficult she had become. She yielded her superiority and got away
with bad behaviour without taking responsibility for her actions or
making amends for any hurt feelings that she had generated. A chance
encounter with a yoga guru at a party made her curious about this
ancient Indian holistic healing technique. She was drawn to the way he
spoke in measured and deep tones, articulating philosophical pearls of
wisdom simply and succinctly. Her journey into yoga and meditation
began that night. For the next two years she went through various
forms of yoga. Her pride was shattered when the guru told her that her
stamina levels, inspite of doing exercise and aerobics for two
decades, was nothing much to talk about.
She realised how little
she actually knew. Her body, despite looking supple, was not ready to
hold a yogic posture for a few minutes. Her movements were flighty and
whimsical not solid and unwavering and her mind was in a mad turmoil.
How had she carried on all these years in such an unaware state of
being ? She became conscious of the amount of negativity in her and
the change, when it happened, was gradual and smooth. Her life
changed. An inner calmness descended as if it was always there waiting
in the wings, awaiting an invitation from her. She gained a better
insight. Overnight, her intuitive abilities and judgement of people
became better. She was now making lesser professional and personal
mistakes. As she cut down on the non-essentials in her life, like
empty socialising, she found her body and mind better rested. Yoga and
meditation increased her concentration. She was more focused and
clear-headed. If earlier she had her fingers in many pies she could
now find the courage to say ‘no’ to things she did not want to do
and especially those which she saw were headed nowhere. Her
risk-taking abilities increased and at 45 she found herself venturing
into new, unchartered terrain by combining enthusiasm and wisdom in
the right proportion.
The biggest learning was
that she no longer felt like talking endlessly, barking orders or
chatting incessantly on the phone or clicking furiously on the
keyboard, sending unending mails to strangers on the Net. She
befriended silence.
The serenity was showing
on her face. If earlier her body looked fit, now her face exuded a
glow which came from an inner beauty. Body and mind were finally
moving in tandem with each other. There was balance and harmony in
what she did and felt. Yoga had turned out to be the right
facilitator, coming to her at a time when the monster within could be
ousted, leaving in its place a gentler, more angelic person.
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