Monday,
February 10, 2003
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Chat spouses and Web
widows
CYBER
flings are increasing these days as men and women derive pleasure with
strangers in cyberspace - thus resulting in breakdowns and problems in
marriage and relationships.
Such Internet affairs are
a growing threat to relationship and also becoming an increasing problem
in marriage counselling, according to a report in News.com.au.
Perhaps merely looking for
a little illicit excitement - at first - or something more, wives as
well as husbands are meeting strangers in Web chat rooms.
As they are swept into the
heady thrill of a fling, more of their time and energy is consumed,
while their spouses are effectively left as Web widows.
Chat rooms catering for
married persons are attracting thousands of would-be adulterers.
While some keep Internet
affairs utterly virtual - and never meet their cyber-sex partner - one
study has revealed online flings can be just as damaging to a
relationship as the real thing.
Dr Monica Whitty from the
University of Western Sydney who conducted the study found that more
than half of the 1,117 respondents thought cyber cheating was the same
as an affair. "In some ways, people divorce themselves from the
infidelity being real," she said.
"There was a debate
that Internet relationships are not real but I have found something
contrary."
The study also revealed
that Internet relationships are increasingly common with 36 per cent of
respondents claiming to have had an online relationship.
One result that surprised
researchers was that young persons were more intolerant of Internet
infidelity than older persons. Dr Whitty also received more than 30
e-mails telling her of relationship breakdowns following an Internet
affair. While some said their partners thought they were not doing
anything disruptive to the relationship, others joined their partners in
cyber cheating.
Couples seeking
counselling after an Internet affair have vastly different reactions to
the infidelity.
Jo Lamble, a clinical
psychologist and co-author of the book Online and Personal, said the
people she sees range from feeling distraught and betrayed while others
say "how embarrassing, what an idiot".
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