Sunday, July 7, 2002		Dream Theme

Dreaming of actors and actresses
Vinaya Katoch Manhas

IT is human tendency to idolise and romanticise actors and actresses. As long as this tendency does not harm anyone and does not become an obsession, it is nothing to worry about.

Many a times romantic dreams involving actors and actresses lead to feelings of guilt among married couples.

As per the Indian concept, for a man to see an actress in his dreams is all right, but for a woman to see an actor in her dreams is shameful. As per the Swapna Kamlakar, should a person see an actor or actress on the stage acting out his/her part, it is a good dream as it indicates success in anything that that person endeavors. But should you dream of making love to them then it is a bad omen.

Serious problems and unforeseen obstacles shall come your way.

As per western thought, to see an actress in your dreams means that pleasures and favours shall come your way. To see one in distress means that you shall help out a friend facing tough times.

Should you dream of being in love with them it foretells that you shall be more inclined towards pleasure rather than toil or hard work. If you see a dead actor or actress it means that your spell of good luck is nearing its end.

To see actors penniless and in misery shows that your affairs shall undergo a change from being promising to being disappointing. For a woman to dream that she is engaged to or is soon to be married to an actor means she shall have much to regret about her actions in her search for pleasure.

Should a man dream of having an affair with an actress it foretells troubled times for him in his domestic life.

Psychoanalytically speaking, to dream of actors and actresses, especially of famous ones, is to become aware of one’s ego. Many a times we realise that the person we are trying to be is not the real us.

This suggests that we are unable to take charge of our own destiny and are trying to create a new personality. Spiritually, it could also suggest the need within us to take responsibility for our own actions and choices.

A 45-year-old man, married and father of two had, as a young man, a desire to become a star.

He had recently begun to dream of becoming a famous personality surrounded by sultry heroines.

He loved his wife and could not understand why was he having such dreams.

These dreams evoked feelings of guilt in him, as somehow the faces of the heroines resembled women in his social circle. After some years every marriage goes through a period of ennui. Monotony sets in and the couple begins to lose physical interest in each other.

At such times to feel physically attracted to other people of the opposite sex is quite common.

What is important is to not give in to the urge. Going to a different place or doing things together would help the couple get over this phase and renew interest in each other and in the relationship.