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Single, but not
fancy-free A single woman is always a centre of attention. If she happens to be a widow or a divorcee, then everyone will sympathise with her as long as the married woman does not feel threatened that her husband is showing undue concern. If one happens to be unmarried and has crossed the so-called marriageable age then anyone she meets—be it her relatives, friends or colleagues —is always concerned by her single status. Advises and comments come pouring in all the time. The bits of advice ranges from: "Stop being fussy," "one has to adjust" to "why don’t you look up the matrimonial advertisement?"(nowadays, the various sites on the net). Why on earth are those
who are married always concerned about a single woman’s status?
Perhaps because she is a source of envy as she does not have to carry
out the husband’s demands or look after children or adjust to in-laws.
Have the ones who are married ever paused to think about the hassles a
single woman has to face? To begin with, she has to fend for herself. If
she happens to spend freely then people say, "she has no one to
take care off," and if she happens to be a little stringent, then
comes the comment, "for whom is she saving?" Little thought is
given to the fact that she has to save for the dark days or old age as
she has no one to depend upon. When she goes shopping, right from the sabziwala
to any other shopkeeper,always gives preference to those buying in bulk
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Unmarried women do not ask those who are married as to why they got married, why do they have a specific number of child/children/or girl or boy. Do the married women realise that their casual remarks can be hurting. After all the single ones are in a minority and to remain single could have been either a decision taken by choice or purely circumstantial. I would like to make an appeal to the married women to stop setting too personal since it only makes one aware that something is really lacking, even if a single woman does not want to feel that way. When we say female of the species is
deadlier than the male; it means a woman is emotionally and mentally
stronger than a man. A man, who gets widowed even at sixty looks for a
wife but a woman who becomes a widow or is deserted prefers to stay
single. If a person feels comfortable being single, then why do the
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