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August 10, 2001, Chandigarh, India |
How to work and have happy children Are you a cool parent?
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How to work and have happy children LESS time to give doesn’t mean less love to give. Yet so many working mothers feel guilty. Don’t! You have a right to your happiness. Being happy, fulfilled and out to work, you’re more likely to have happy kids than those who feel thwarted staying at home. There’s no scientific evidence to suggest that children of working mothers have more psychological hang-ups than other kids. Think positive. Involve the kids
Start the day right
Get them to help
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Are you a cool parent? ARE you the sort of free and easy parent kids love to have — or do you clamp down on bad behaviour and insist on house rules? Try this quiz to find out whether your methods are the right ones. 1. Your child turns up with his/her gang after school. What happens: a. You tell the friends to go home — your child has homework to do? b. You provide drinks and biscuits and allow an hour’s play, then tell the friends to leave — it’s homework time? c. You let them get on with it — who cares about homework when your kid’s having fun? 2. Your daughter brings home a boyfriend for the first time. Do you: a. Express horror? b. Welcome the boyfriend, and make sure that you are very much around? c. Leave them alone as much as possible — you remember what it’s like to be young and in love...? 3. Your children ask if they can throw a huge party for all their friends. Do you: a. Agree — it’ll be a laugh? b. Agree to a party, but stress on limited numbers and refuse to let in gatecrashers — you will be in the kitchen to prevent trouble? c. Refuse? 4. Your daughter wants some new clothes. Do you: a. Get some patterns from the sewing shop and make for her a few blouses and skirts? b. Go with her to the trendiest shops and let her spend an agreed amount? c. Give her money to spend and send her off with her mates? 5. Your son is begging for the latest football kit — but it’s expensive, and he hasn’t grown out of the old one yet. Do you: a. Agree to fund the new outfit if he puts in a certain amount of hours helping in the garden and/or round the house? b. Buy it for him straightaway? c. Flatly refuse to buy it — he has to grow out of the old one first? 6. Your child becomes a vegetarian over night. Do you: a. Provide a balanced vegetarian diet that fits in with the rest of the menu and wait to see what happens? b. Insist that he eats meat along with everybody else? c. Switch the whole family over to a meat-free diet? 7. One of the youngsters is passionate about a current issue in politics. Do you: a. Laugh scornfully and tell them to be quiet? b. Listen sympathetically to their point of view? c. Agree wholeheartedly? 8. Your 11-year-old daughter is desperate for a pair of high-heeled shoes. What do you do: a. Buy her several pairs? b. Explain that high heels are very harmful for growing bodies, but she may have just one pair for very special parties? c. Refuse point-blank to listen to her on the subject? 9. There’s a family argument about where to go on holiday. The youngest child is very keen to go to Mongolia or somewhere equally difficult. Is he / she: a. Ignored completely? b. Listened to sympathetically? c. Allowed to put his/her destination of choice into the hat like everybody else — and you will go if it gets picked out? 10. Each child is allowed to pick a name for the new baby. One child insists on a dog’s name, such as Rover, Fido or Patch. What happens? a. The baby’s second name is, er, Rover, Fido or Patch? b. The child is told to pick a more suitable name at once — or nothing? c. You gently change the child’s
mind, for example, by suggesting they choose to name the baby after a
favourite fictional character such as Madeline or Christopher Robin?
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